I wanted to let you guys in on a little secret about the Motherless Daughters group symbol (the avatar) of the waves of the beach. I chose it for a few reasons. The first is I took that picture while on vacation with my Mom at our favorite place on earth: Lido Beach in Sarasota Florida. My Mom LOVED the beach, it relaxed her, she loved the sound of the waves and the smell of the water! We took two vacations there in two years, just the two of us. We were supposed to take another in Feb or March of this year, but we never made it. It was "our special" place and this time we were going to bring Bumpers. Being there with her was heaven to me. When my brother brought a box of things to the funeral home that Mom had put aside to one day be buried with, there was a small vase of shells that I had collected and dried out for her from Lido beach. They used to sit on ther bedside table, now they are forever with her. I cried when I saw that she had wanted to be buried with them. The second reason is because like Betty (bjwcouselor) said, I've found that grief is like the waves of an ocean. The pain comes and goes, some waves are huge and come crashing in and consume the entire beach and our lives, others are soft, like sweet memories and don't last as long but still leave their mark. But like waves, the grief will be never-ending and with us for the rest of our lives. I also thought the ocean was a good symbol of my Mom's love and many of your Mom's love and what a Mother's love for a daughter should be..deeper than we'll ever know, full of mystery, provider of sustanence and life, calming and fun on a sunny day and sometimes full of rain and tears on a stormy one, but always beautiful. The ocean will still be here long after we are all gone, just like our love for our mothers and theirs for us. This may sound ridiculous and overly-sentimental but I really did put that much thought into it. Just wanted to share that with you all. Love- Holly
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