Well, I was finally able to meet the lady that Dad met when he went to Florida in February. She flew in Sunday afternoon and all I can say is "Thank goodness" Angela from MD gave me her number, because I had to pull over on the side of the road and cry while I talked to her before I met Pat. Angela, you were a godsent for me...Thank you soo much! Pat arrived around 2pm and they came to our house for a family dinner at 3:30. My Hubby (the ever wonderful cook)had made BBQ brisket, ribs, chicken, potato salad, baked beans, corn on the cob, and I made the banana pudding. She walked in a shook hands with my hubby and then she looked at me and smiled. Then she came over and said hello as she hugged me. She said she was so glad to finally meet me after speaking with me on the phone. I must admit that her personality was warm and out-going and put me at ease more. I know that she was nervous as well, since she had stated that to my Dad prior. We had a good time eating and sitting around chatting. It all went off without a hitch. Then later that night I found myself depressed, because Mom was weighing heavy on my mind. I woke up in the middle of the night and cried harder than I think I ever have since mom passed. Why do I feel this way? Dad was the most relaxed that I had seen him in 19 mos.!! I was estatic for him...he was happy and content. They went away for a few days in the motorhome and I understand that they need to get to know one another more, since they have only been chatting on the phone everyday for 5 mos., but the early part of this week was really hard for me and I struggled. I am doing better now, but a chapter of my life is closing and I find myself really trying to cling to it. I know that I have to let it go and move forward. It's just that having to move on w/o Mom is devastating for me, but seeing the look on my Dad's face on Sunday brought everything into perspective. Mom is gone and there is nothing more that I can do for her accept cherish the memories that she left me. Dad is still here and deserves to be happy for his remaining time here. She is a lovely geniune woman and she makes him happy. I guess that is all I could hope for. I would like to think that Mom handpicked her. That is all that is getting me through. Thanks for listening!
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