The day my mum died (Tuesday 22nd April) I kept my son off school we were all to upset to go anywhere, but the day after I asked him how he felt about going back into school as I knew for a child routine and normality helps them more and I didn't want him to watch me so upset as he himself is so sensetive I could have made him feel worse. I told him I would write a note for his teacher and explain everything, he got home from school and I asked how he'd been he shrugged his shoulders I asked him what his teacher said, "nothing" my son replied.How odd I thought but put it down to maybe the teacher did not want to upset him If he did say something. The weeks have gone by and my son has not said a lot about his Nan which surprises me because they were so very close it has worried me but I have told him he can talk to me anytime I'm always ready to listen I tell him this If I feel he's being particularly quiet. I wasn't to worried about school because I sent the letter in they were aware of what had happened If he got upset or something. I did not do the school run for a few weeks after I lost my mum and have only really been doing it properly for last couple of weeks so I was unaware of what I was about to find out. 2 weeks ago a lady who works at the school saw me at the bus stop and walked over for a chat "How are you" she asked "I'm so so" replied, she smiled "I just haven't seen you in ages, everything O.K?" she asked. I looked at her puzzled, maybe she hasn't been told its a big school. So I told her I had lost my mum, they all knew my mum as she used to do the school run for me in her fitter days. She was in complete shock, "why didn't you tell the school" she asked so I explained that I had wrote a letter and how the teacher had not said anything to my son, etc etc so she said she would find out what had happened. Anyway to cut a long story short the teacher hadn't read the letter so he didn't know and so no-one else knew and all this time I thought at least he is getting support while he is there and he wasn't. It is eating me up inside I don't know whether to approach the teacher as I don't want to get the member of staff into trouble for telling me that. Should I talk to her first or just simply act dumb and ask the teacher why he didn't tell the members of staff sooner (quite a few in last couple of weeks) who have been offering me their sympathy wishes. I just feel so sorry for my son a ju-jitsu instructor was having a go at him about talking in the lesson and i got angry and told to back off he is sufffering enough lately and told him why he also didn't know and apologised to my son for being hard on him.Isn't he suffering in silence enough!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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