ok...here's the deal! My younger sister (the high maintenence one) lives 3.5 hours away from my brother, Dad, and I. During the course of the past 18 mos since Mom has passed...she has been home 3 times. Yes, that's right! a whopping 3 times is all! Now don't get me wrong, I know that initially she didn't come down bacause she tried to get Dad to come see her on some weekends in order to give my brother and I a break, but now it is just annoying. I cannot TELL you how many times that we have went up to see her since we lost Mom. It was a minimum of 2 to 3 times a month! I have been busting my rear-end helping Dad get the house ready for his new lady friend that will be arriving the 20th of this month to see him...that is a week from this Sunday! My sister and I agreed that the kitchen and the spare bedroom where she will be staying needed to be re-painted prior to her coming, because Mom & I were in the middle of doing it when she got sick and it really needed to be completed prior to Pat arriving. So, the past 2 weekends I have spent tearing down wallpaper and painting the entire kitchen and all the cabinets, replacing all the knobs and brackets, etc. ok so now that the kitchen is done w/o any help from my sister who told me that she could not afford to come down, because they didn't have the money and her husband did not have any time that he could use to come down. I said ok...I will take care of it. Then the very next day she calls to tell me that our older sister wants her to fly out to Virginia to see her and purchased a ticket for her and that she is leaving in a week to go and spend a week with her. I asked her who would be watching the kids? She said that her husband had 2 weeks of comp time that he was going to use. I was just a little ticked off by this! All of the sudden her husband had all this time and she had enough money to take with her on her trip!! This weekend is the first weekend she has been back and I asked her if she could come home and help me do the spare bedroom this Saturday and her response was that she really didn't have the money and she is tired from the plane ride on Tuesday! I was so angry!!! I mean...I have been dealing with Dad for 18 mos w/ very little help from her. All summer I have been going out just about everyday after work and weekends to help my brother mow the commercial properties that Dad has contracts with to do, because he can't do it this summer since he had his rotary cuff surgery, but he still needs to income. Then what is left of my weekends for the past month has been trying to get things prepared for when Pat comes in, because it is important to Dad that the house looks good when she gets here. He does a good job at keeping things neat and tidy, but the deep cleaning needs to be done by me. Plus, all the painting, etc. I just had my 20th anniversary on Wed. and we got to celebrate it by going to lunch that day alone. Whoopie! I don't want to make more of this that I should, but I feel like she is being a selfish hag!!! Now she is asking when I am going to come up and see the new house they just moved into. Is she kidding??? Does anyone in this family think that I have a life outside of Dad, mowing, painting, etc? I am angry today....and I know that I will have to let it go, because if I say anything...it will be a blow-up which will only upset Dad, but I am getting close to just telling her to take a flying leap! I'm sorry that I rambled. Thanks for listening!
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