
Motherless Daughters Community Group
For any daughter who has lost their mother, whether through Death (if it's been one day ago or 40 years ago) or Abandonment, (i.e.-drug abuse, mental illness, physical or emotional abuse, etc.) and is working through the grief process. This group provides unconditional support and understanding from women who have also lost their Moms and who truly care.
So has your mum left the family and had no contact?
I am not sure how you would handle this. If that is the case, can you seek her out and see if you can repair and rebuild your relationship?
Please let us know how you go,
Sam
xoxoxo
Thanks for clarifying your situation.
Do you think your mum's reaction to you opening up was just a knee jerk reaction? Surely she knows that you would have lots of stuff bottled up and it is all not going to come out and be rectified over night.
This will all take time and patience. So I guess you need to work out the best way to tackle this. Do you contact your mum again and say that you have lots and lots of things you would like to get out in the open and ask for her to listen? Is your relationship worth repairing?
Only you know the answer to that.
it is human nature that your Mum is going to be defensive. She will most likely be carrying a lot of guilt for leaving you and your brother and that may be the way she is handling things.
Please keep us informed with your progress.
kind regards and lots of love and hugs
Sam
She probably is very sorry she abandoned you for that time and just doesn't know how to express it. Or she may just feel that she needed that time to herself and was hoping you would be understanding of it. Sometimes mom's can forget that no matter how old their children are, they are still the children and they expect moms to be there for them.
There are some moms that are simply too selfish to put their children's needs before their own ever. I have no way of knowing if your mom falls into that category.
No one knows why she reacted as she did, but I would give her a bit of time to collect herself and then maybe try again if you feel up to it.
I know this cannot be easy for you, but please do keep us informed of how you're doing.
Much love and hugs to you,
Carol