Motherless Daughters Community Group
For any daughter who has lost their mother, whether through Death (if it's been one day ago or 40 years ago) or Abandonment, (i.e.-drug abuse, mental illness, physical or emotional abuse, etc.) and is working through the grief process. This group provides unconditional support and understanding from women who have also lost their Moms and who truly care.
My daughter and I went to the nursing home my mom is in to spend Thanksgiving with her. She has had a feeding tube in for about a year, so she could not enjoy turkey. She cannot move or talk. She just stares. I was sitting on the chair next to her bed as usual when I saw her hand and it had bruises all over it. They keep her covered up pretty good from head to toe and I figured to hide her condition. The nurse said her whole body is filling up with fluid and her skin is so fragile that when they turn her to change her she bruises up.
My brothers decided not to pull the feeding tube out, so I have no choice. They feel God will decide when she goes. She has nobody for medical power of attorney, so it has to be a unanimous decision between my 3 brothers and myself. They all live in Florida.
They say she is not suffering, but how can she not. She has been on her back for over a year and it makes me sick to think of what she looks like.
Anyway, just needed to vent. Thanks for listening. Catie
My brothers decided not to pull the feeding tube out, so I have no choice. They feel God will decide when she goes. She has nobody for medical power of attorney, so it has to be a unanimous decision between my 3 brothers and myself. They all live in Florida.
They say she is not suffering, but how can she not. She has been on her back for over a year and it makes me sick to think of what she looks like.
Anyway, just needed to vent. Thanks for listening. Catie
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Raquel
I am so sorry that your mum is going through this and that you have to sit back and do what your brothers have requested.
It is a terrible place for you to be in right now so I guess all ou can do is keep on visting your mum, be there for her, talk to her and love her...
And you just keep on venting here all you want!!!
Love and hugs
Sam
Much love
Sharon xx
I'm so sorry to hear this about your Mom. It is so difficult to watch someone we love suffer. I will keep you and your Mom in my thoughts and prayers during this very difficult time.
Trisha
Both my parents were on feeding tubes - but while in hospital beds or wheelchairs - not as stationary as your Mom.
I, too, spent last Thanksgiving at my Dad's nursing home (just two months after my Mom had passed away). He couldn't eat either, and probably didn't know it was Thanksgiving. We didn't have much of a relationship but after losing my Mom, I became all he had...and the memories now of his last months in nursing home breaks my heart.
My heart goes out to you - I can't tell you how much.