Hello wonderful supportive amazing women....I am so very lucky to have this group to come to and feel understood. I am wondering if any one has any advice on the grieving processes effect on your relationships with husbands/boyfriends/signifigant others. I am trying to give my boyfriend the benefit of the doubt but he's been sooo unsupportive through my mothers illness and the grieving me and my sisters and dad are going through. Rather then try to help me do things to make a difference he gets upset that I'm not around or if I'm sad :( I understand this is not the perfect life he signed up for, watching your partner sift through this kind of pain is so difficult, but I feel like he just doesn't understand and is being selfish. If it were his family I would be doing anything I could to help ease the burden but he's always telling me I'm doing "too much", which I am soooo not, and standing in my way of doing things to help myself and my family, threatening that maybe we should not be together because he "can't handle" the depressing things that keep happening...as if I have any control over all that has happened. I don't know what is normal for a signifigant other to be able to handle, I just know if it was me on his end of the relationship I would be supporting him any way I could for as long as it took out of love. It hasn't even been 5 months since I lost my very best friend in this life and it's a tramatizing blow. I wish he were more understanding :( am I being unreasonable to expect him to quietly just be there and be unconditional?
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