Those of you that know me over the course of the past 2yrs since the passing of my Mom...know that my Dad had met a really lovely lady about 14 mos after Mom was gone. It was completely unexpected for my Dad, since he adored my Mom for the 42 yrs they were together. They started out as friends sharing comfort and support to each other, because both had lost their spouse. Over the past year, it has grown into very nice,loving relationship. I can tell you that Pat is wonderful to my Dad and she made it a point from the get-go to let us know that she didn't only want to be with my Dad, but she wanted to whole package (all of kids & 6 grandkids). Meaning, that if me and my siblings did not support them being together, then it was over. She said she would never come between our close-knit family. I think that I why I liked her so much. Not only was she very good to my Dad, but she wanted to get to know us all. She talked to us about our Mother and commented on what a wonderful person she must have been to raise 4 great kids that take such good care of their Dad. Well, Dad went to see her right before Christmas and he left last Thursday to go and see my oldest sister. While he was visiting..he found a ring set that he bought. He called each one of us to ask our thoughts and feelings if he asked Pat to marry him and we all were very happy for them both. Dad is leaving my sister's tomorrow to head back to her house and propose. Although, I am happy for Dad....it's also hard, because it is the end of an era. It will never be Mom & Dad again, but now Dad & Pat on memories going forward. I don't know why I decided to tell you this today. I guess its because I feel fortunate that I had the most wonderful Mom in the world and because my Dad can smile & laugh again without feeling guilty. The first year was sheer hell for my family and now we are finally able to see sunlight at the end of the tunnel of grief we were in for so long. My Mom would be happy that Dad found someone to share the rest of his life with...after all she knew how wonderful he was for 42 yrs. to her. Anyway, I just thought I would share this new chapter in my life. I hope it helps others.
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