Ok...once again Im rambling....BUT...I have a few close friends. 3 to be exact, and since my mom passed on the 12th of March, they have been AWOL for the most part. I mean, yes they were very supportive in the beginning....meaning the first 3-4 days of her passing...but now, well now it seems that they can not...or will not understand that MY grieving is just beginning. Yes, I have come to "accept" that she is gone but it still hurts like hell. I don't want to go back to my life before she passed. Im still dealing with life AFTER she passed. The calls and the texts are so....so....lacking. I mean Mother's Day is coming up and NOT ONE PERSON has asked me how I'm coping with that. It's as if they are afraid to ask because they don't want to or can't deal with my emotions. But I'm at the point now where I am ready to cut them off. Maybe later, I can re-new a friendship but right now Im truly hurt by their lack of compassion. Now, dont get me wrong...all 3 of their moms are still alive so I KNOW that they can't completely understand what Im going through...but ignoring it won't make it go away. Sometimes I NEED to talk about her. She is in my EVERY thought. I can NOT and will NOT ignore here...but so many of my "friends and loved ones" are choosing to. What should I do? Should I tell them how much this hurts? Or back away from them for a while until I get my grief under control? I have been through so much in my life...divorce...single parenthood...being laid off...financial problems but NOTHING compares to this. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.
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