This topic keeps coming up, so I'll just put this out there. When you ladies tell stories and describe things or people you're angry at, 98% of the time, I'm right there with you. I feel that your feelings are legitimate, justified, and that you are entitled to them. Why, then, do we (me too) let people tell us that we're "going through a stage," like a toddler would, when we have legitimate feelings? I have felt anger toward certain people--for reasons. I am not, nor have I ever been, angry at the world. Why do our feelings get trivialized, and reduced to a "stage," when other girls, without tragedy, can retell a story and people say "of course, you were angry about that," like they're "real" people? It breaks my heart when I hear you guys talk about legitimate feelings and call them a "stage," like grief is pathological, and you are no more than your grief. Do you guys know what I mean? I in no way mean to be offensive; I just think you guys deserve better. We all do. :(
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