
Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

deleted_user
I can't help but read all the sad threads and feel for everyone. I have to share my story with you so that it might give someone hope. I had many years of grief. I lost my first pregnancy, I had a miscarriage early on. I came close to losing my second pregancy but with 5 months of bedrest, I was blessed with a son. I lost my third pregnancy at 28 weeks. I knew something was wrong, the baby had not moved for many hours. I went in for an ultrasound and was told the baby was not alive. I had to wait for my body to go into labor and after a week, they finally induced me. We named him Joshua and his funeral was the first funeral I had ever attended in my life. I wanted to die. I was so depressed and sad for many months. I felt like it was my fault, I had done something wrong. I neglected my son who was 14 months at the time. I finally realized that my son who was with me was suffering cause his mommy was so down and sad. I decided one day that I need to be a better mom and live life again. I got help by seeing a counselor and using medication. One year later, I got pregnant again but I had another miscarriage. My fifth pregnancy went well and I had bleeding off and on and was put on bedrest again but I had a healthy son. Four years later, I got brave and got pregnant one last time. My husband and I decided that this would be the last pregnancy ever for me no matter what the outcome. We had been through enough stress, pain, ups and downs. I was blessed with a baby girl.
I am telling my story cause I feel for those of you who have recently lost a baby. The pain never goes away but it gets dimmer. Life goes on and things will go your way and you can be happy again. It will get easier to talk about the lost baby.Don't try to ignore or forget what happened. People will say the wrong things and you have to forgive them. They don't know what to say or do. Keep a journal, pictures if you have them, poems, make a scrapbook in your babies honor. Find something that reminds you of them. For me it is butterflies. There were butterflies all over the cemetary the day we buried Joshua and now when I see one, I think of him. I cry less and dwell less on the pain than I use to. You may never know why it happened but you can choose to learn from it. I learned to be a better mom. I learned to be more patient and caring and have sympathy for people going through problems. I learned to believe in heaven and my 3 kids know they have a brother and other siblings up there watching over them.
You will get through this. It will take time. Grieve all you need to. Don't try to be strong for everyone else. If you are in a relationship, try hard not to let this put a wall up between you. go to counseling together, read books, cry together. Don't blame each other or turn away from one another. Men grieve also but they hide it better.
I just want everyone to know there is hope and life can be good again.
Debbie
I am telling my story cause I feel for those of you who have recently lost a baby. The pain never goes away but it gets dimmer. Life goes on and things will go your way and you can be happy again. It will get easier to talk about the lost baby.Don't try to ignore or forget what happened. People will say the wrong things and you have to forgive them. They don't know what to say or do. Keep a journal, pictures if you have them, poems, make a scrapbook in your babies honor. Find something that reminds you of them. For me it is butterflies. There were butterflies all over the cemetary the day we buried Joshua and now when I see one, I think of him. I cry less and dwell less on the pain than I use to. You may never know why it happened but you can choose to learn from it. I learned to be a better mom. I learned to be more patient and caring and have sympathy for people going through problems. I learned to believe in heaven and my 3 kids know they have a brother and other siblings up there watching over them.
You will get through this. It will take time. Grieve all you need to. Don't try to be strong for everyone else. If you are in a relationship, try hard not to let this put a wall up between you. go to counseling together, read books, cry together. Don't blame each other or turn away from one another. Men grieve also but they hide it better.
I just want everyone to know there is hope and life can be good again.
Debbie

lvnikita
Thank you for sharing your story. Your words of encouragement have touched me. I know one day I will try again.

deleted_user
Thank you so much it gives us hope to hear stories like yours.

deleted_user
THanks stories like yours do give hope.

deleted_user
Reading your story has moved me to tears...Thank you for sharing it has reminded me there is hope.

deleted_user
If after all of your loses you can put life in perspective, then I feel that I can do the same and live my life for my son that I DO have. I can't do anything about my losses, but I can be a better mom to him. I am so glad you were blessed with some angels here too. I hope I can give my son a sibling without another loss. Thank you.

deleted_user
yes thank you so much for try give back hope to us

duane
Thank-you

deleted_user
Thank you so much for sharing. It does help so much to hear that you can go on to have a good life after such a tragedy. No matter how impossible it may seem at the moment. Thanks again!

deleted_user
Thank you so much. I really needed to hear that today!!

deleted_user
Thank you for caring enough to give us all a glimps of the possibilty for future happiness.

deleted_user
Your story speaks for so many. For those of us in the midst of multiple losses it can be so hard to see a way out. Thank you for sharing.

deleted_user
Thank you for sharing your story. It's helpful to hear from someone who's come through this with their heads high. Angelique

princessrenee
Thank you for sharing your story. I must say you are one hell of a strong lady. I found it sooooo hard with 1 months bed rest but you had to do 5. OMG. I am so pleased to hear that you had more children. As for me I think my daughter will be my one and only and that just kills me inside. For me butterflies remind me of my precious little girl. Everytime I see a butterfly I sometimes feel my girl is visiting me. I love butterflies. My daughter has butterflies on her headstone and they are surrounding her headstone. I love them so much because I relate them to her. I wish my severe pain would ease but just over 8 months and I feel like it hasn't lifted at all. I think my pain is so deep for my daughter but also because its really hard to cope with knowing that she will more than likely not have a brother or sister. I am finding my marriage quite difficult at times but I hope my husband can talk to me about things as this is a huge problem for us but I know they grieve so differently. Thank you again for your story. Hugs.

deleted_user
Thank you. You have filled me with hope and inspiration.
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