I worry about the same thing, too. I too, had my 1st pregnancy end in m/c. I wonder how it will go next time, but I am using time and prayer. I know that when God wants my husband and I to have a baby to raise He will give us one. Until then I know He will give us the strength to handle whatever we are given in life.

I'm sorry for your loss. You might want to check out the pregnancy after loss or infertility group. I am now a member there after being a part of the miscarriage group. I was TERRIFIED when I got pregnant with this baby after 2 miscarriages. I have discovered that almost everyone is scared after a miscarriage, and the ladies in that group are so wonderfully supportive as they can totally relate to your worries. Also, May is a relatively recent loss. You may find that with time you will want to try again despite your fears. You probably won't have another m/c, but if you did, you would survive and come out an even stronger person. Best wishes.

I have exactly the same fear. Some days it's really hard for me to even think about getting pregnant again. I refuse to give up my dream of having a family though. I know in time that I won't feel as scared and will be ready to try again. Until then I'm just trying to rest, relax and take good care of myself.

I have a very dear friend who had a miscarriage with her first pregnancy and had fertility problems. She now has a beautiful 2.5 year old and a 2 month old. I understand your fear. I have the same one and I have a 2 year old from my first pregnancy.

I have been pregnant two times and both have ended in Misscarriages. I am afraid to get pregnant again for fear that it will happen again, but I have to put my faith in God that this will not happen again. I owe it my children in heaven to try again. We too want a baby badly, but we have really tried to not obsese about it so much. Obsesing does nothing, and really I think it has prevented us from getting pregnant again. I agree that God will not give us something that we cannot handle. I hope what I have said has helped. Keep your chin up.

I had genetic counseling to check sure I wasn't prone to having another miscarriage. There are blood tests that can be done to check sure people aren't carriers of traits that make miscarriages more likely. The genetic counselor told me what the exact statistical chances of me miscarrying again were. It made me feel a little better just knowing that it was a 'random' cause, rather than a genetic cause. But most people don't need to go through genetic counseling after a miscarriage, my dr just decided that I should b/c I lost my son in the second trimester, which is unusual. I think that genetic counseling helped me a little bit. Not that a test result can really make the fear go away, but it helped me to know what I was facing.