talk about you baby as much as you like. I think people want to change the subject to make you feel, better or because they can't cope or don't know wht to say. My daughter was stillborn 6 weeks ago and I find people feel awkward or I feel I shouldn't be discussing her. But I carried her for 40 weeks and then gave birth - she happened and she was a paert of my life and very much apart of my future plans - you can't ignore that. S0o I stuff everyone and discuss Alex as much as you like.

Im going through the same thing. I loss Morgan to a m/c. I was 10weeks along.I loss Morgan 9/21/07 and I want to talk about it and I miss my child but its like no one wants to listen.They just say its in the pass and I need to move on and I know I need to move on but this is how I keep Morgan alive and Morgan is still very much my child. I dont think people understand if it doesnt happend to them. You talk bout Alex as much as you want we are all here to listen as for everyone else they need to see that Alex is always going to be your child and they should want to listen. If you wanna talk I'll listen

People are so weird. They get so uncomfortable when I talk about my son. I love talking about my son and keeping his memory alive. But I think that other people will just never understand because they never have gone through what we have gone through.
I don't know if this helps, but I have decided that I can't change people, and will only talk about my son with people who really want to listen. And if anyone I know ,God forbid, ever has to go through this, I will be someone in there life that they feel they could talk freely about their child.

People don't want us to talk because it makes them uncomfortable. I don't think they know how to deal with our grief. Whenever I mention my miscarriage, due dates, how old my baby would have been, people just look down. There really should be more openess about miscarriages and stillbirths. I think it would make our grieving process easier if we felt we could be open.

who cares about other ppl. Talk about him as much as you want!!!

I find myself wanting to talk about my experience and my daughter a lot. It's like therapy or something. The more I talk about it, the better I feel. Sometimes it feels like talking about her makes her "count" and makes what we went through "count" in some strange way. Other times it's just natural and I don't even notice when I talk about her. No matter when or why, I never care what people think. Not talking about it doesn't make her or the experience go away...

DONT LET ANYONE TELL YOU CANT TALK ABOUT YOUR BABY. I LOST MY FIRST BABY ALMOST 8 YEARS AGO. AND LOST MY SECOND ONE JUNE OF THIS YEAR.

I know, I feel the same talking about my miscarriage.. I am made to feel as if I should just get over it, get pregnant again and stop bothering people with my ranting. Well, you know what? I kept my husband awake for 2 hours in bed last night just talkink about it and , well, he didn't say much but at least I got a lot off my chest! And this morning I feel a bit better for it. I found that talking about it made many people come forward and say that it had happened to them too and they had tried to bury it, not talk about it and it made it much worse for them! There will always be people who won't understand out there because it's never happened to them. I have decided to talk about it whenever I needed to and sod the rest!
Love, Lola XXXXXXX

I did the same thing last weekend.We were driving down the road and I look at my husband and told him the first baby we lost would have been five on October 19.Don't get me wrong but I think God everyday for the two little girls I have.I don't even know if you will ever forget the date the baby was to be born.I sure have not forgot about the two miscarriage I had.I think only mothers who has been through this only feels this way and others don't get it.My husband reply was really and that is it.

Knowing there was a baby growing in your belly for a short while is pretty amazing to me.That baby had a heart beat and pulse and was growing inside of you.Something that I will never forget.I just think of them being healthy and happy in heaven.Running and playing everywhere and not having no sorrow.I still wish I knew the sex of them.

I have experienced the same frustration with people wanting to ignore the fact that my husband and I have had a devastating loss that was very real. After we lost our baby at 11 weeks, 2 weeks later my mother was telling me to stop "dwelling" on losing the baby because she was "sure" I would conceive another in a few weeks. Apparently, my mom, who I have always been close to, does not realize that losing a baby is NOT like losing a watch. You can't just replace a unique little miracle that lived inside your body. Also, I have not conceived after trying for a couple of months and I would have not had a period other than my doctor gave me progesterone pills last week. I don't understand why my family doesn't let me talk about our baby and how they can be so insensitive. I think that it is taking me a lot longer to recover because I essentially do not have their support.

Anna ,please dont ever Stop talking about your littel Angel . He is a part of you and allways will be and one day you will be together again.
Good Luck

Anna, I agree with pretty much every response on here. Talk as much as you like about him. He is your son and others need to learn how to deal with THEIR issues around death and grief. Just because we don't have them physically in our lives every day doesn't mean we don't think of them and what they would be doing. A quote I found not too long ago said....the only this worse than speaking ill of the dead is to not speak of them at all. Can't remember who said it but we need to talk about our children. I don't know if you can find a supportive place to talk about Alexander (hospital support groups, MISS foundation, SHARE, TCF etc). Keep talking and if they don't want to listen, reevaluate you relationshipw ith them!

talk about him. I think people don't want us to, because it makes them uncomfortable. But who cares about them. They make us uncomfortable and sad when they talk about they're babies that are here.