I don't know if the pain will ever stop. I cry all the time but I have been keeping myself busy. I would get up in the middle of the night to cry (that is if I would go to sleep.) My OBGYN put me on something which helps. Just coming to DS has been EXTREMELY helpful. My friends have been supportive though I really haven't seen anyone face to face since I had my son. It's been 11 days for me and yet it feels like it was just yesterday. I think though each days it gets a little easier for me. I am so sorry for your loss.

Hello I am sorry for your loss and I understand. I was 14 weeks when I delivered my baby in the hospital. I felt that my body hadn't done its job and that I had let my family down. I lost my baby 10/04/2007 and at the time I was a wreck. I can't tell you the pain stops because it won't we have lost our children and that can never be made to feel ok. But for me personally I can talk about my baby now without breaking down. There are still times when I cry and question why but time does help. I hope this dosn't sound hard faced because if I could do anything for my little one to be with me I would and I can't even think about trying again yet as I feel I would be betraying her but I do feel that she is with me.

THIS IS JUST SUCH A HARD THING FOR ANY WOMAN TO GO THROUGH! I HAVE FELT THE SAME WAY SAD TO ANGRY, TO BLAMING MYSELF FOR THE LOST OF MY BABY. HELL TO THIS DAY I STILL FEEL IT WAS SOMETHING I DID! IT ALL TAKES TIME I FEEL BETTER MORE AND MORE EACH DAY. DONT GET ME WRONG I STILL HAVE HORRIBLE DAYS BUT IT DOES GET BETTER! I WISH U THE BEST OF LUCK!

I had my miscarriage on June 11th. I was 13wks. It has been 5 mo. since my loss and I still have trouble. It does ease with time. To me there just is never any closure. My prayers are with you. This site is very helpful to me. It is a community that can help you not think that you are crazy for feeling unhappy. DAY by DAY that is all we can do.

I felt the same way! About feeling like I failed my hubby. We don't have any children yet, and it was so devestating. I still get upset sometimes and have to cry. I hope you have a great hubby who is able to be there for you during this. Talking here on DS has helped me a lot. I hope we can help you!

I'm not sure if you're really close with anyone you work with. If you are, well, let me tell you what I did. I have a few girls I'm close to at work, which I consider a blessing in itself. On my husbands suggestions, he and I stopped by my office the Friday before I went back to work. Just a quick 10 minute visit to kind-of get the awkwardness a little bit out of the way. Turned out to be a very healthy thing. We hugged, we cried, we talked a bit. Turned out I wasn't the only one in the world who had felt the gut-wrenching pain of this whole experience. It's true, misery loves company. I never understood that saying but now I do. I wish none of us knew, but I take solace in the love, compassion and understanding of my family and friends, including my new DailyStrength friends. It won't be easy, there will be moments that will feel raw. Go outside, take a break, take a walk, take a deep breath, and when you need to, have a cry. You don't have to be strong all the time, and you don't need anyone's permission to feel the way you do. Talk it out, write it out, find comfort in the things that you loved before, or find something new, and don't feel guilty. We're all in this together.

I am so sorry for your loss hun. It's been almost 5 yrs since I lost my baby at nearly 6months, and I still grieve on his birthday. However, I took counseling and got help soon after I realized that I wasn't getting better after the loss. A support group like this is awesome too. We're all hear to listen and advise. There is hope and comfort, it's just looking at this situation as "it had to have happened for a reason". And I know that even that saying is upsetting sometimes, but if you find the positives of it.. it helps. For right now... let yourself me angry, sad, and emotional... it's a part of the healing. You can't get better from nothing... something has to be worse first. So keep holding on and setting your feelings in place knowing this is going to pass but for right now you have to let it out. Take care hun.. and I hope loving arms are wrapped around you.

I don't think the pain ever goes away. We just learn to live with, and accept it. We will always grieve our babies that are gone, but we do move on in our lives, but we never forget. The grief comes and goes, you will have days where you cry less and days where you cry more. And you will have good and bad days. I have found that being honest with people when they ask how I am doing has really helped me, because I'm not ok all the time. To ease the hurt, I prayed and asked God to help me. I told Him my heart hurts so bad and I need him to help me. He answers prayers. If you are having trouble sleeping ask your OB for maybe something for anxiety and sleep. Those helped me especially in the early days when I didn't sleep. I just stayed awake hoping I'd feel her move, hoping she'd come back to life. Give yourself time, you loss is very new and fresh. It's normal to feel like you've let everyone down. I felt that way, but I no longer do. But that all came with time and support from family friends and my therapist.