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When do you feel back to normal?

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I miscarried for the second time 3 months ago at 13 and half weeks. I still am having great difficulty getting over it. I have 2 sisters that are also pregnant. One just found out that she was having a boy-which is what I would have had. I am so fortunate to have a 2 and half year old girl, I am just really having a hard time feeling"normal" again. Does anyone know when and if that feeling ever comes back? I want a baby so badly. We tried last month, but no luck. It is frustrating. We tried again this month, but I am not having many symptoms. I just want to feel like myself again.
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I'm getting ready to have my 2nd period after my 2nd miscarriage in 6 months. I've felt okay thru this cycle, but I am now having bad PMS anxiety, in spite of my exercise/good food routine that in normal circumstances helps me. I have decided that besides the emotional/mental state of grieving, the body physically has a state of grieving, letting go of what was lost, hormonal changes, etc. I feel like I'm way more sensitive to hormonal changes than I used to be.
As far as trying to feel "normal", I've come to the conclusion that I'm just not the same after this bad thing. Healing takes a long time, and I'm gonna have to be patient. I've learned from other bad experiences that its best to let the emotions pass thru like a storm. Feel bad when you have to, and before long maybe you start to feel something else.
Please be patient with yourself, and best of luck to you. Heal up safe and sound, you will feel "normal" eventually.
lvnikita
lvnikita
I miscarried twice in exactly 4 months, my first loss was a second trimester loss. It took me three months to get pregnant again after the second loss. What I have found out is that with time, you will feel "normal" again... However, your normal will be different than it was before. Miscarriage changes you and how you view things. Hang in there, with time, it gets easier... but the pain and sadness is always there or just a thought away. Hang in there!
deleted_user
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Honey, you will never feel normal again in the sense of the way you felt prior to your miscarriage. Over time you will learn to redefine normal. I lost my daughter almost fourteen months ago and I know I have never been the same since nor will I ever be. In many ways my new normal is a blessing because I find I have more compassion and empathy that I never used to have. I am slowly beginning to find joy in simple pleasures. I also find I hug my living children more and I tell them I love them more than ever. Not that I didn't before Angel's passing but I'm more aware of life's fragility now that it's knocked on my door. Just hang in there and be gentle with yourself. Eventually you will feel better...the pain and the grief will always be there but they won't be as overwhelming or consuming!
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