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What do you think?

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I need some honest opinions from you guys. I am having a really hard time with my older sister who is a few weeks ahead of where I should be in my pregnancy. It's especially hard now that her belly has begun to grow. Whenever I have had a hard time with people in the past I have tried to do something for them that is somewhat difficult for me. It has almost always helped. I was thinking that for Christmas I could buy her a crib for her baby. I've started looking (I can only handle a little looking at a time)and have found some really beautiful affordable cribs. My question comes down to this: Would she want me to buy her a crib or is that something that she would want to pick out herself? I don't want her to feel obligated to keep the one I give her. Also, is going and picking out a crib for your own child something you would want to do as the mother?
What do you all think?
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It depends on if you two have similar taste. If you do then I wouldn't see a problem with it and I think it is an awesome gesture on your part. Personally I just picked out my crib last night but I wouldn't have had a problem with someone else giving me one as a gift. Maybe go christmas shopping together and stop by a couple baby stores and see which styles she comments on and go from there. Good luck.
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when i was pg and before the m/c (obviosly) my parents told me they wanted to buy me a crib. the plan was to go to the store together so i could pick it out but it would still be a gift from them.
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What a generous and lovely idea! I like JchPumpkin's idea of picking it out together. I had a son before my miscarriage, and it was important to me to pick out the crib. Shopping for it together could be an important experience to share as well as a kind gift.
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I agree with the shopping together with her. It's kind of unrelated, but when we first moved into our new apartment, we had no furniture and my parents wanted to get us a dining room set. We shopped together with them, and I'm so glad because my taste and my parents' are sooo different. If you actually feel like you need to wrap something, maybe make a little collage of cribs from some magazines (if you are up to it of course) and wrap that up. Good luck, and I admire your strength to look at baby stuff.
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I would definitely let her pick it out, maybe make an outing of it, then pay for it as a gift from you. I know as far as Furat and I, we are pretty excited to pick out our own baby stuff! I hope this helps...
Love,
Mahadra
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I think it is a very kind thing to do. Giving always makes me feels so much better.
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Encourage her to create a gift registry, and then you'll know exactly what she want.
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I think that is wonderfully caring of you and an amazing way to try to cope. I personally would want to pick out my own crib, it seems like I would have an very big idea of what I want. I think try something different. Or go find an old dresser and change it into a changing table! That would be very touching for her! Hope this has helped.
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