
Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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So, I tried to go back to the gym today. It's been about 3 1/2 weeks since I had to deliver my baby boy at 19 weeks. Physically I'm feeling ok. I used to work out 4-5 days a week, even when pregnant. Anyway, I get to the gym, ready to go and I see this woman, who I didn't even know, but I remember her face b/c I've seen her at the gym before. As I see her face, what else do I notice? Her pregnant stomach. I remember the last time I saw her she didn't look pregnant. Then it hit me...we would have probably been around the same due date. There she was happy and pregnant, exercising on the elliptical and then there's me, not pregnant and trying to get back to "normal" whatever that is, and definitely not happy. I lost it. I had to leave. So, that's got me bummed out right now. Anyway, I just needed to share. Thanks!
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After my m/c I wouldn't go into a store alone because of the thought of seeing a pregnant woman. I needed someone with me as a distraction. It's hard because this type of thing made me feel like I was a bad person- wishing I didn't have to see the happy pregnancy glow on someone else, but it felt like ripping a bandaid off, the sting from seeing the glow I once had also.
It is good that you did not stay there when it hurt so much. You will get back out there when the time is right.
It will get better, just give it time.
It isn't easy and I think you're doing really well to be getting back into the gym so soon.
It took me over 2 months and I needed my husband to come with me to the gym to begin with.
Take it easy on yourself and realise that your reactions to these things are acceptable to us all.
It's been two and a half months exactly since I lost my baby, and I still have days where I can neither talk, nor think, nor look, at pregnant women (and sometimes babies) without getting anxious, sad and generally upset. I avoid situations where I know I'll encounter someone who's pregnant - still. Somehow, pregnant women are harder to cope with than living children.
The pain gets less sharp, but the memory is always there; give yourself time and be gentle with yourself. If you needed to get away, then that's okay. I know I've done it, it was the only way to cope - and right now, it's about taking care of yourself, especially emotionally.
Jenn said it right; it's like ripping a Band-Aid off.
I know it'll get better, somedays I can actaully be around PG women and I'm fine, but other times, I just can't handle it. So I know it'll get better in time.
I hope my when my cousin has his baby, I am either PG again or away at grad school so I don't have be around the baby, b/c I don't think I could handle that.
I am glad that you came here to talk to us about it. I hope that you are comforted knowing that we have all been there. And everytime we have a moment like that, each time they get a little bit easier.
I was a very angry person. It took a lot of self control to not get snippy with people. The worst for me was when I saw a mother with 4 kids in the car carrying one of her children into the store by one arm in a onesie in mid ohio winter. No hat, gloves, coat, and her head bouncing around. I got sooo angry thinking that she was able to have that child that she was not taking proper care of when I couldnt even have one!!
It gets easier I promise. But keep us in mind when you need to vent!!