Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
I had a miscarriage in December 2007. We found out we were pregnant again on March 12th. About a week and a half ago, I had major bleeding and went to the ER. To our HUGE surprise, there was a fetus and a heartbeat. However, instead of measuring 8 weeks, it measured 6 weeks. There was a heartbeat but they couldn't tell me what the rate was. Last week we went for a follow up visit at my OB. They did an u/s and the baby was still alive but hadn't grown much. The heartrate was only 63. We go for another follow up this Wednesday to see if the baby has grown any and if the heartrate has increased to a normal/healthy rate. I am terrified. I know I should be 9 weeks now because I tested positive 2 days after my period should have started. There is no way I can be 2 weeks earlier than what I thought. And the heartrate is so low. I am terrified of losing another child. The other complicating factor is my husband- in December he had to leave town for a month the day after we found out we were miscarrying. I had to have the D&C and recover for a month without him. Like some cruel twist of fate, he is leaving again this coming weekend for a month and I am sick to my stomach when I think about going through the miscarriage process again by myself. How have other people coped with the stress of a miscarriage? How have other people gotten through this multiple times?
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I am so sorry. The stress is hard...especially when you are trying to cope alone. I have been through this 4 times-- each time was a little different in the grieving process, but what got me through was finding supportive people around me. I would recommend looking into a miscarriage support group in the real world as well as the support you get here. Usually, hospitals will have something like this. If there's anyway your husband can delay his departure, that would probably help too. Otherwise, I would open myself up to supportive friends and family who may want to help and be a shoulder to cry on. I am so sorry-- I will pray for a miracle for you. Hugs.
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