We lost our 3rd child just after her birth. We found out 3 months before she was born (at 37 weeks) that she had a fatal birth defect. After the initial shock wore off, I felt very alone. I didn't feel like I could talk to my husband about our daughter. I felt like he wanted to avoid any discussion about her so he wouldn't have to deal with any feeling. Once she was born, all we could do was cry while she was laying on my chest. We were just waiting for her heart to stop. Initially after she died, he was supportive. I told him I wouldn't be over this in a week, a month or possibly even a year. It was going to take me time. It's been just about 7 months now. And I lost the numbness that allowed me to get on with each day about 3 or so months ago. I am on an antidepressant which kinda helps my emotions stay more even. He has told me that he wants me off the drugs and to just get over it. Our daughter is buried in our home state and I visit her every time we go home. In my new town, I feel very isolated not knowing anyone, but also because no one knows. SOme are finding out but my husband is still being very unsupportive. I feel like he is lying to himself because he has become more of a jerk lately. I don't feel like I can talk to him about this now. I feel lost. Does anyone have any suggestions for dealing with an unsupportive husband? Other than talking with him.
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