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For all of you ladies out there complaining about "unsupportive, unemotional" men in your lives....
Tonight on PBS was a show called the Secrets of the Sexes, part 1 of 3 and they were talking about the difference between male and female brains. They actually showed than men have smaller areas of their brain involved in emotion and that most men score much lower in empathy than women (oddly the one exception in this was a boxer!).
The best thing said is that women assume men think like they do and men assume women think like they do. We can't get into each other's brain. All of the stereotypes have a scientific basis. And just because we are more male or female like in some respects doesn't mean that we always are. ( A man may be empathetic, but be non-verbal) Part of it is cultural, but a lot of it is biological.
Honestly it is not that he doesn't love you or that he didn't love the baby you lost... it's just the way his brain works! This is a tough time, don't make it harder on yourself by driving him away. Tell him you need him to hold you and listen (or to pretend to). Love each other and don't make the other try to be something they're not.
Tonight on PBS was a show called the Secrets of the Sexes, part 1 of 3 and they were talking about the difference between male and female brains. They actually showed than men have smaller areas of their brain involved in emotion and that most men score much lower in empathy than women (oddly the one exception in this was a boxer!).
The best thing said is that women assume men think like they do and men assume women think like they do. We can't get into each other's brain. All of the stereotypes have a scientific basis. And just because we are more male or female like in some respects doesn't mean that we always are. ( A man may be empathetic, but be non-verbal) Part of it is cultural, but a lot of it is biological.
Honestly it is not that he doesn't love you or that he didn't love the baby you lost... it's just the way his brain works! This is a tough time, don't make it harder on yourself by driving him away. Tell him you need him to hold you and listen (or to pretend to). Love each other and don't make the other try to be something they're not.
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Its a hard thing for us all I think! One thing that really helped me was the book, "Avoiding Miscarriage" I recommended it in the recommendations! I really urge everybody to check it out, even if just for the "understanding your partner" section! there are so many great parts that really help and it helped me talk with tyler so much!
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one other thing... the unempathetic part doesn't relate to being a good dad. The most competitive most un-empathetic man was the one who did the sweetest diaper change.
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