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Tired of being sad

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I know its been a while since my m/c back in sept. So many people here have had such recent losses. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant again for the last 2 months and I'm waiting to see if this is the month. I have a strange feeling that its not. Anyway, I feel like I'm surrounded by pregnant women, and women with babies. There is no place I can hide. I just get so mad that its so easy for everyone else and they don't have a care in the world and then you have me. I'm tired of hiding and I'm tired of being sad. I just want to be happy and myself again. Everything I do now, feels like a big failure. My husband tries to cheer me up but I know he just wants his wife back and doesn't know what do to except for lots of hugs. I just don't know what to do to make myself happy.
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I am in that boat paddling with you. The emotions come and go. i am trying as we speak to to psych myself up to go out to dinner. Hope I don't cry this time. Don't be do hard on yourself. this kind of pain has no time frame. You are healing even when it doesn't feel like it. (((hugs)))
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It's so hard. I know I feel like I'm being stalked by pregnant women. It's hard to move on and from what I've heard we'll never forget the baby we lost but time does take some of the pain away. I feel your pain I wish there was something to make it all better. Good luck and let me know if you need to talk. Hugs Angelique
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honey i feel your pain. i thought after piper passed i wouldnt have any kids. i was angry at god for taking my baby away. i was jealous and felt like a failure. 2 years later i am pregant:) and so far so good. i still feel guilty about piper, but that takes time:)
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It seems like all of us are paddling down the same river in the same boat without a paddle. I should be planning a baby shower for myslef, not dodging my friends' baby showers. All of our men got home from war the same time, so the majority of the women around ft campbell are ALL getting ready to deliver babies or have just delivered.
It's okay that YOU aren't okay yet-- These things all take time. Dealing with the loss of a pregnancy is the same as dealing with the loss of a child. You carried that baby for a while, planned for it, talked to it, dreamed about it, then it was gone with no (or little) warning. We are all sad and dealing with hurts here... That is why these women on DS are SO amazing. They could be having the worst day ever and I still get hugs from them asking me how I'm doing. Keep using the resources from the website, and you will continue to heal on your own timeframe. EVeryone is different, so don't think that you are wierd and it's taking too long. If you need I have found that talking to the RIGHT therapist is VERY helpful.
Maggie
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