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Tips on how to relax....

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Can anyone give me tips on how to relax about trying for another baby after miscarriage? Each time I have fallen pregnant it has been a very happy "accident" but now I want a baby so desperately I am becoming obsessed and feel that it won't happen if I continue like this. It seems to be putting so my pressure on my husband and I? But equally, I am 38, so know that I really want to make sure that we make love on the right dates.... Any advice will be gladly received.
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Well I do not have any advice but if you get some please pass it on to me. I am almost in the exact same situation. Good Luck
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I don't know if I have any advice but I am definitely in the same situation. I'm 42, had a miscarriage in March and we've been trying to get pregnant since May with no luck. We've tried clomid but I think that I was too uptight for anything to work. My husband was also feeling the pressure so even though my body was responding well to the clomid...we weren't even having sex enough to have a chance to get pregnant. This is what I have started to do...I don't know if it's going to work but it's a start...

I'm a bath person so I've been making myself stop doing stuff around the house and get into a nice warm bath and relax or read. Also, I've started to get massages regularly. I'm lucky that I have a friend who is a masseuse and can come to my house but more and more you can find reasonably priced masseuses. I've also decided to try a more holistic approach to ttc. I'm hoping it's going to work...Keep me posted on your progress and I'll keep you posted on mine.
good luck!
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I'm feeling the same way - I want to make sure we're having sex on the right dates, but it's driving me a little crazy trying to plan it all out. This is our second cycle ttc after a m/c in August....so this is my "plan" for this cycle. I decided rather than trying to figure out the best days and make sure we have sex then, we're having sex every other day...no matter what. I should be ovulating this weekend, so we'll increase to every day for a few days just to be safe. As far as we know, my husband doesn't have any issues with sperm count, so I'm hoping this takes some of the pressure off of figuring out the best days.

And I have to say, I thought I would start getting sick of sex (I'm typically happy with once a week or less), but this has actually been working for me. My husband hasn't been complaining, of course....but I'm enjoying it more, too. I think it helps just knowing, "ok, tonight's the night" rather than trying to decide if I'm "in the mood" or not.

Oh, and I've also been taking a yoga class, which seems to be helping with my overall stress.
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