I did go to therapy for about 2 months. A little advice~ it is very important to go to some one with the same spitiual beliefs as you. Find someone you enjoy talking to. I htink it was very helpful for me to go and I can always go back to see her if I feel the need to. We found our therapist through a lady from our church, and we had met with one other lady before that and we did not think she was helpful at all. Prayers to you on this sad journey and rollercoaster of emotions. HUGS to you sweetie.

I am currently going and she has given me meds to take the edge off of things, but our goal is to start coming off them after the holidays are over. Coming off is a weaning process that's not bad, because I've gone down that road before with another situation in my life. I like going, I've been going since the Thursday after Dot's funeral and it helps for me to go and talk about it and have help working through it. I'd recommend it to anyone, because this is something so devastating that it's hard for anyone to cope alone. I know you have your spouse and I have mine, but they're grieving, too. So, that 3rd party is needed, I think to bring an outside view into play. It's hard to be objective while you're in the grief. So to have someone like my therapist, has been a God send.

I was lucky enough to find a licensed psychologist who specializes in fertility issues (including loss) near my home. I cannot tell you how much she has helped me.

I too have a young son, so I wanted to find a way to still be a good mom to him. I also wasn't comfortable with med's because I wanted to try again right away. Going to see my therapist every other week gave me a specific place and time to deal with my loss. I found I was able to function better day to day (and even to enjoy being with my 2-year-old!) knowing I had that time set aside for my grief.

I do agree that it's very important to find someone with whom you have a rapport. Don't give up if the first try isn't a perfect match. Ask for referrals from your OB or from friends/family.

It's been 3 months for me, and while the pain is still there, I'm gaining acceptance and peace everyday.

I am thinking of you and hoping you will find what you need to learn to live with this tragedy. It's a daily struggle, but I know you can make it. Take care.

Thanks Ladies! This doctor was actually referred by my OBGYN's office so they specialize in "women issues." I am really excited about going. Does that sound crazy? Though I will say I will take your advice and to find one that I feel comfortable with. I'll let you know how it turns out. I just need to know I am not crazy because I feel like I'm losing it!

You're not crazy. You've just experienced a tremendous loss. You deserve all the help and support you need. I hope your session goes well. Do let us know how it goes.

So today was my first session. I really liked the therapist! I did alot of talking and I was REALLY comfortable around here. I bawled like a baby in her office and she let me do so. She bought up things that really hit home for me. I feel like I had some weight lifted and I am definitely going to return. I really think it did me some good.

I'm so glad you found the experience helpful! I hope it eases your pain. I will be thinking of you.