I am so sorry for your loss. I know it probably feels like a lifetime of grief, but at 2 weeks, it is still very soon after the miscarriage to expect too much from yourself. I found the fist few weeks very tough and then gradually there were more good times than bad. Everybody heals differently, but you will get there in time. Hugs.

Let me first say I am so very sorry for your loss. We lost our son a year ago this coming June 6th and I will tell you I have my good days, but as it is getting closer to actual date it seems to be getting hard again. The pain will never go away, but it will ease up. I believe that the first few weeks I was really numb and just couldn't believe everything that had happened. I still can't to be honest. I will pray for you. Take care.

Hey Jess,
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. It's going on 8 months since my m/c and I feel like I am just starting to get back on my feet now. These things take time and 2 weeks is not nearly long enough. I found that once my due date passed things got easier. I don't believe that anyone "gets over it" you just learn to handle it a bit better. You will get to that point. We're all here for you and you can message me if you ever want to talk!

Thanks for all of your input ans stories. It's amazing how reading your stories actually help me feel better. I guess it just makes you feel like your not alone. I'll be praying for all of you, and thanks again for the nice words and thoughts. HUGS to all of you:)

You are definitely not alone, kiddo. I'm coming up on month of five and I have days when it all feels like yesterday. You never get over the loss of your child, in spite of what others tell you to do, but like the other ladies here have said, the pain does lessen a little bit more with each passing day and you will be able to move forward with life. That doesn't mean you forget..you never will. Go easy on yourself, too; everything is still so raw. Do what you need to do for yourself. We're all here for you and you are among friends.

It sounds like you were writing my thoughts down. I lost Conner in late October and sometimes I feel like it was yesterday. But there are also days that I am at peace with it. It does get better. You just have to hang in there. Sometimes you just have to make yourself get out of that bed, even when you think you just can't. As for everyone thinking you should "be over" this by now, you just have to learn to tell them to butt out. you will never "get over" this. You just learn to live with it and move on. But only you and those that have been through can even start to understand.

It's true that you never "get over it," but you can learn to live with it. It is important during this time of loss that you allow yourself time to grieve. It is part of the process to be very, very sad and that will allow you to move forward when you are ready.

I'll offer myself as an example. I lost two babies last year (August and December) to early miscarriage and went through a serious depression for about two months after the second loss. With the support of this site, my grief therapist and my family and friends, I have fought my way back to my life. I took several months off of ttc after the second loss too. I worked hard to remember/find what was/is good in my life. Being someone who has lost babies is now part of who I am, but I am also someone who can appreciate the life I have now. It takes lots of time and hard work, but it can be done. The pain is real but so is the hope.

Hang in there. I will be thinking of you!