Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
I am dealing with wanting to avoid going to my husband's family for Thanksgiving, because his cousin's wife and I were supposed to be due within weeks of each other and now that Dot's gone she's the only preago in the family. I just don't want to be around her. She's not a jerk or anything. She's a very sweet person, but I emotionally cannot handle it. Everytime I think about being there with all of his family, the husbands, wives, children, and now one pregnant person; I feel trapped like I'm imprisoned. Any suggestions on how to get through it from any of you that's been where I am? My baby died 9/24/07 and I've just gone back to work this week. I'm just not ready to be around a pregnancy I will be stuck in a room with, as people make a fuss over her, because she's pregnant. I do fine with the preagos I meet in public, but she's just too close for comfort. Help.
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I'm not going to dinner at my Inlaws. I was going to go even though my MIL has been absolutely HORRIBLE to me but I just can't handle it. I thought I could deal with it, but I just can't. I wish I had some words of wisdom. My husband says he totally understands (not that I care what he thinks anyway.) There are going to be people at my inlaws I just don't know and I don't feel comfortable. I hope you have a decent Thanksgiving though...wish you weren't having to deal with this.
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Dealing with others who are pregnant or have just had babies is hard. I've been coping with that too. For me, its not that I am mad at them for being pregnant. I've discovered that they remind me of how excited we were, followed by how sad we've been. I think you'll know when you're ready. I wish you luck.
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I can understand why you would want to avoid her this Thanksgiving. I felt the same way about returning to work and being around the three woman on a daily basis that are due within a week of when I was due. I had no choice though I had to return and it is very hard at times. The only thing I can say is that she is family and the child will be family and as much as it is tempting to just avoid situations like this, someday we are all going to have to face them. Maybe try to stay on the opposite end of the house or make sure your husband knows how you feel and have him come "rescue" you if you get in the same room and all the attention goes on her pregnancy. I don't know just some suggestions, I hope they help a little.
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