
Miscarriage Support Group
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I was just reading the post first period after miscarriage, and I am still waiting.
My doctor told me usually 6wks and everyone on here says 6-8 wks, but it has been six weeks and I am FRUSTRATED waiting.... I want to feel like I am normal, like I will be able to try again, like my body is working right.
Right now I feel like I am paranoid always wondering when it will start, afraid of it coming on without any warning while I am at work or out with my family.
Here is some background info-
My miscarriage was on Novemvber 25th at almost 11wks, was natural, bleeding lasted 5 days with 2days of spotting, doctor did a hcg count at one week it was down from 32,000 something to 300 something so a week later she did a pt to test instead of a blood draw and said it was neg.
At what point do you get worried? Am I getting worried too soon? And what do you do when it doesn't show up?
My doctor told me usually 6wks and everyone on here says 6-8 wks, but it has been six weeks and I am FRUSTRATED waiting.... I want to feel like I am normal, like I will be able to try again, like my body is working right.
Right now I feel like I am paranoid always wondering when it will start, afraid of it coming on without any warning while I am at work or out with my family.
Here is some background info-
My miscarriage was on Novemvber 25th at almost 11wks, was natural, bleeding lasted 5 days with 2days of spotting, doctor did a hcg count at one week it was down from 32,000 something to 300 something so a week later she did a pt to test instead of a blood draw and said it was neg.
At what point do you get worried? Am I getting worried too soon? And what do you do when it doesn't show up?
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I am in the same boat as you. It has been about 7 weeks for me and I have not gotten my period yet. It's really hard to move on emotionally when you physically don't feel ready. My hcg level was at 29 as of last tuesday and I just got it done again today. I will know more tomorrow after my doctors appointment and get back to you.
Don't be worried about it just yet. If it doesn't come in 2 more weeks then I would definetly go see your ob. But I think it'll come soon when you relax and are not expecting it.
Good luck!
I was an absolute wreck after my MC, as we all are. I actually kept spotting and bleeding off and on for weeks - about a month. I went to see the ob/gyn and had a frank conversation with him: basically, I couldn't emotionally handle things going on so long, and not having my body back to normal. I was frustrated, anxious, scared and angry. Luckily, he was willing to put me on some low-dose hormones for three weeks, to get my period to return. Doing the math, it worked out to being about six or seven weeks after the MC to wait for my period, assisted by the hormones.
I know how frustrated you are with the wait. Look at me: I couldn't even stand to wait; I cracked at about four or five weeks and asked my ob/gyn to do something. You could try doing that, but you've made it so far - if you went my route at this point you'd wait another month, anyway.
Every day feels like a week when you're waiting on this and all things MC, but if you can make it two more weeks, you might just be surprised. And if you're not at the end of those two weeks, then get checked out. And don't be afraid to tell the doctor that it's the emotional aspect for you - your mental health and emotional wellbeing are just as important as your physical health.
As far as waiting goes, the only way I can cope with it is to have plans. I'll go running on this day; we'll go shopping this evening, and to a movie on this one, etc. Give yourself things to look forward to, and that can help the time pass more easily.
And keep posting on here, because that will help you as well as us :)
I have never been so happy about my period... and getting a sign rather than it just all of a sudden being full on!
I am hoping it is really here and the timing is good... I don't work again until Monday!
Thanks again for all your support... I will feel so much better when i am all crampy!
Thursday I had some brownish tinge traces and I thought it was a sign of an oncoming period but Friday nothing, Saturday a little of the same thing, and today a little of the same thing. I don't know whats going on. I just want to have AF return so I can feel like I am actually healing...
I am dreading it on one hand because the last time I saw the sight of blood I was losing my baby and crying everytime I went to the bathroom. I am scared of all those feelings rushing back, but I want to move forward. If I have to take a step back to that for a short time to be able to take two steps forward, so be it. I just don't want to sit here waiting, that feeling of having no control like during the m/c is just terrible.
I am scared of one more thing... hubby and I were intimate 19 days after m/c. We didn't use protection but we used the pullout method (sorry if tmi)... what if? I don't know if I just wait one more week until it has been 8wks post m/c or if I just ease my mind by taking a pt.
I know there is not much advice you can give, but I needed to get this stuff out of my own head!
Sadbelly, I do not know what I want. I know I want to ttc again soon because of my age (35) but all along I have felt like I NEEDED to go through seeing a period and having that emotional breakdown as I re-live the m/c to really reach the closure on the loss(that is what I am expecting anyway, the tears to come flooding back when I am in the bthroom).
If it does happen that I am pg I will not be sad, I think I will just feel very emotionally torn. I am still ga-ga over the baby that I lost, still thinking about the fact that we should be having a baby the week after my kids get out of school, still thinking about the fact I know I should have been feeling baby flutters soon. I still want that one! Ahhh, sigh.
As for the chances, My hubby told me he wasn't sure what we were supposed to do as far as "that" goes, so he said it was really kinda half/half. If that makes sense. At the time, I just didn't want to talk about the m/c or anything having to do with it. The thing is I know that when we concieved our first child who is 11 today there was one night possible and we were paracting the pullout method, which we fondly refer to as "the parent" method!
Since I am quickly approaching 8wks post m/c and will need to do something I think I will pick up a hpt on Friday since I don't work and will be home with hubby while the kids are at school. It is scary either way- I worry about there being something wrong with me and I worry about going through a m/c again even though I know many women experience one and go on to have a successful pregnancy.
No matter what I know, it is nerve racking!
Thank-you you all for your replies!