Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
Yesterday we went to my hubby's parents' house for brunch, and then to our niece's christening. Lillian was born in November - two months premature - and we are so glad that she is with us and doing well. It was our first time seeing her, and she is a beauty. I was truly enjoying watching the service, taking pictures, etc. After it was done her mom was trying to settle her down - she was annoyed with having water poured on her head - and when I heard the sounds she was making, I just started to lose it. I had to go to the car and cry.
I am not jealous of my sister-in-law. I am happy for her, and I thank God every day that she is safe (she had preeclampsia and her BP went VERY high)and that Lillian is healthy and doing well. It's what we prayed for. But this hurts so much! I held Lillian and watched my husband hold her and I felt great joy. Also great sadness when it occurred to me that if I had not lost my baby in June, I would have been due in the next few weeks. Since losing this second baby 3 weeks ago,
I swear, there are pregnant women and babies everywhere!
I was also kind of upset that aside from DH's dad, who just hugged me extra tight, NO ONE said anything to me, like "sorry for your loss" or "how are you doing?". I know it was Lillian's day, but I don't see any of them very often, and that kind of hurt me. How do ya'll deal with these feelings?
I am not jealous of my sister-in-law. I am happy for her, and I thank God every day that she is safe (she had preeclampsia and her BP went VERY high)and that Lillian is healthy and doing well. It's what we prayed for. But this hurts so much! I held Lillian and watched my husband hold her and I felt great joy. Also great sadness when it occurred to me that if I had not lost my baby in June, I would have been due in the next few weeks. Since losing this second baby 3 weeks ago,
I swear, there are pregnant women and babies everywhere!
I was also kind of upset that aside from DH's dad, who just hugged me extra tight, NO ONE said anything to me, like "sorry for your loss" or "how are you doing?". I know it was Lillian's day, but I don't see any of them very often, and that kind of hurt me. How do ya'll deal with these feelings?
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
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Today is my 25th birthday, to my somewhat lack of surprise I can see already no one really seems to care. I've always been the kinda person to make sure that everyone I Care about feels appreciated and knew somebody had their back. I can count 4 times this year when I Went out of my way to make sure a "friend" felt good on their birthday, especially if they got left hanging. Its early in the...
One of 5 phoned me when I lost my baby.
The rest I have spoken to since and are all suffering from complete amnesia, which may be something to do with them all having babies of their own due within a couple of weeks from when I was due.
I feel so very akward when they call, and I have stopped calling them,
my brother and mother are worse,
they knew my due date and keep going on about how my brothers very good friend is due that day.
I honestly think I have found it harder to deal with my faily after the loss than to deal with the loss.
I know how you feel. I know the pain and other feelings that come with losing a baby and then being put in the middle of family that is so happy and just "ignores" your pain. Everyone there knew I'd lost two babies recently, but no one ever mentioned anything to me. Even when I myself said something about it, they all just looked at me and kept quiet. Way to make me feel better.
I can tell you, however, that though the pain doesn't go away, it gets easier to deal with. My opinion on that is probably biased because I am currently pregnant again, and this pregnancy seems fine so far (which I feel very blessed and thankful for). I really don't know how I would deal with another loss or how I would be feeling now if I wasn't pregnant. For me, being pregnant again and getting another chance at it is what helped in my healing process. I hope that we can all find something to give us peace and allow us to heal from this difficult pain.