I think you have the right to be angry, even if it is your mom asking that question. You don't need that kind of pressure to get pregnant. On the other hand she might have been asking just out of concern.

I think sometimes people don't know what to say or how to act when this happens. Though I don't know your mom, I bet she didn't mean to upset you. Having said that, you do have every right to be angry. My advice would be to talk to your mom and tell her that right now, you can't have her asking those type of questions and that the decision to get pregnant again is up to you and your husband.

I think you have every right to be angry. Members of my family, who I never even told I was pregnant the first time, have been pressuring my husband and me to try again, and I just want to tell them to buzz off. We have enough grief in our life and enough anxiety without their added pressure. And now that we lost our second pragnancy and still have people asking questions like that well, let's just say I'm not looking forward to Thanksgiving. So I agree with lisabk talk to your mom and explain to her you need your space and you need your privacy as far as this issue goes. Her pressure doesn't really make the grieving process (if you're still going through that, which I never have stopped, so...) any easier to go through.

ok i'd be angry to, but when i first old my parnets i was pergant they had a fit, at one point, my own morther told maybe i should think about ending the pergancy, this stement has fover put a wegde between us, because two months later i had a misscarrge, and i have always wondered if she prayed for it, or it she was deep down inside thank god, i am not reaady to be a grandmorther yet. She says no swhy would she wish this hear break of us, but then why did she say that. even if it was out of anger, it never should have been said.

I DONT BLAME U FOR BEING MAD. I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY PEOPLE BUTT IN TO OTHERS BUSINESS WHEN IT DONT CONCERN THEM. UR NOT WRONG I WOULD BE THE SAME WAY!!

Your feelings are justified. I am not sure about your relationship with your mom, but I would like to think she is just worried about you. Try not to let her & others that make comments like this effect you. It is your's & your DH's feelings that really matter. Take a deep breath and make the decission based on what you two think not by what others say to you.

Like the others here, I agree that you are justified to feel anyway you do, and I also don't know the relationship with your mom. But I do know that our parents, just like us look forward to moving on and having a positive experience. My Parents and In-laws also were asking about retrying after the m/cs, because they wanted to have something to look forward to.

I know sometimes it feels like our moms barge in our lives, this can be rude and annoying and lots of times theyre so wrong but they love us and we have to forgive them

I WOULD FEEL THE SAME WAY. IT IS TOTALLY UP TO YOU WHEN YOU ARE READY TO TRY AGAIN. DONT LET ANYONE TELL YOU DIFFERENT SWEETIE.

i think you have every right to feel the way you feel. they are your feelings and you should express them! no it is not her place! I feel the same! I didnt even tell my mom that i was pregnant or even when i had the miscarriage because of all the pressure she would have put on me !! Its not good to keep it bottled up learn from me!! its okay to be angry and feel the emotions you feel. otherwise it will really get to you one day and you will blow up like you never have before! Im here for ya! Kayleigh's MOM

My mom said the same thing. I told her that when I have information to give I will give it and I don't need any add pressures. Please, I don't mean to be cross, but you must put yourself in my shoes. If you can't do that then please say nothing at all.

I think it is important to tell them how you feel about it or they will never know and keep doing it.

Thinking of you! Big hug!

I think it is important to tell them how you feel. My mom has been really good about things that are going on. The only thing she asked me was when did my doctor say I could try again if I wanted too. I told her they said after 1 - 2 cycles. She said that is good b/c back in the old days they used to say 6 months. So it's great to hear that things have really changed over the many years. She knows this is something I have to deal with and when I am ready to talk I will. Every time she speaks to me she asks me how I feel but that is just a general concern question. She doesnt push. But it's important to tell your mom how you feel otherwise she will not know and continue to do it.

My mother did the same thing. I didn't know it at the time but I was pregnant. Then a week later when I told her she accused me of lying!! Good Luck girl. You have every right to be angry.

I don't know the details of your mother-daughter relationship, but I'm very close with my mom. I don't share information that is too personal, but if she had asked me that (she didn't), I would probably take it that she was just curious, not prying. Now my mother-in-law on the other hand, well she asked me when we were going to have another one (in those exact words) about 5 months after my m/c and right after we found out my brother-in-law's girlfriend was yet again pregnant. I took that personally and resenter her for asking such a thing. To me, it seemed like she had almost forgotten I had a miscarriage.

I think it is ok to be angry, but your mom may just be trying to check in on you and is concerned. Maybe you could talk to her and let her know how you are feeling. Good luck.