I am 22 years old. I met my wife five years ago at college and that was it for me, *BOOM* in love! We just got married in May and stuff has been going great. We found out in December that we were having our first child and I don't think that there has been a person in this world to date that could say that they were any happier than us. Last week my wife had some bleeding and we went in for an ultrasound which showed us that my wife had miscarried. Everyone grieves differently, and I understand that. My wife cries a lot, which is to be expected, especially it having happened so recently. I on the otherhand deal with things differently. I'm not a cryer and though I do sometimes cry I will almost always make sure I am alone. I just don't like dealing with thins on the outside. I'm going through the trials of grief and loss just as anyone would and things are hard, it's just it seems like I already want to move on. Maybe moving on is the wrong term, I want to think about and do other things. I want to get back to work, and hangout with our friends and family and I don't want to hear "sorry" or "how are you doing" or any of that, I want to get back to life and I understand that she can't yet and I am very supportive of however she needs to grieve, I just don't know if she understands that this is what I need to do. I pray for our child everynight and I always will. I will think about that baby every day for the rest of my life. I just don't want to talk about it. My wife sometimes gets angry that I am not openly grieving about the loss and I just don't know how to make her understand that this is the way I need to grieve. She wants to name our baby and I told her that was fine, I just couldn't know the name right now and that if she wanted to do that to go ahead and maybe at some point I would want to know the name she picked out. This enraged my wife. I just need her to understand that I too am going through a hard time and I have my own way that I have to deal with this tragedy. How?
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