Really well done to you for keeping your mouth shut. You may have said something that you would regret. Your M n' Law sounds hard work. Does she always put her son down like that? It's not your fault, you have to remember. I'm sure that you are doing absolutely everything right and some. Remember we are all imperfect because we all inherited sin and imperfection from A & Eve. That's whose fault it is!!!!! There are people I call the "no ideas", these should be avoided at all costs, don't even bother to speak to them about your MCs because they just have no idea!!! They can be so awful and terribly unhelpful. The total opposite of what you need! The ones to talk to are the people who have been there or the ones who seem to understand even though they haven't. Terrible things happen all the time to people of great faith. "Time and unforseen occurence befall us all". Bad things happen to good and bad people and they are not a sign of having too little faith.

I think I would have had to bite my tongue off to keep quiet like you did! I agree. We have enough guilt without someone else adding to it.

well done for not saying anything i would not have been that strong... i still to this day blame myself for it.. i have a person who i thought was a good friend laugh at me when i had my mc which was really hurtful other people just dont understand.. its not something i wish them ever to go through but perhaps a little understanding would be nice as for your mother in law of all people being a mother she should have known better! i think sometimes people need to sit back and think if it was them that had lost how would they feel..

I'm sorry she said that to you. People don't understand. i actually had my primary care doctor tell me that I m/c and other things because I didn't pray or have enough faith. I was too dumbfounded to say anything... but I did change drs. Too bad you can't change mother in laws! lol. Just remember, that no matter what anyone says, this was not your fault.

I really feel your pain. I am unfortunately stuck with a MIL that has a BIG MOUTH and doesn't know how to keep her mouth shut. She has made the most rudest commeents starting the night I was induced. It's been 4 weeks since I had my son and I do NOT want anything to do with her. My husband can't understand why I am so mad at her. He's clueless himself.

I am just really sorry you have to deal with her after going through what you went through.

That's a really awful thing for her to say. I don't blame you for feeling angry at her. If it were in my family, I'd be leaning on my husband to ask him to try to explain to his mother why this was such a hurtful thing to say. (And perhaps to mention the Bible story of Job, while he's at it - bad things often happen to people with very strong faith!)

You are a better women than me because i would have had words with her, maybe not in front of everyone but later.... people can be so thoughtless, you would think being religious she wouldn't blame her son.

I cant even imagine holding my tonge like that, but good for u. she had no right to say those things to you. I feel guilty everyday over my MC and having someone tell me it was my fault would just plain hurt.

She sounds like a right cow to me!!!!! I would have just got up out of my seat and walked out without saying anything. You have every right to feel resentful. I know you feel guilty, but it is NOT your fault!!!! Next time she says that you could either remind her of the story about Job, or ask her if her husband died would it be because she was an insensitive piece of work? :P Sorry you have to put up with her. :(

What a total cow!!! as you quite rightly feel so angry with her why don't you speak to her. explain to her in a calm and rational tone that whilst you wouldn't expect someone as blinded and norrow minded as her to understand something as awful as a miscarriage, you and your husband would appreciate a little respect at this hard time. tell her that she of coursze is entitled to her opinion but to be frank you do not want to hear it so she should do well to remember in future that you included her in the picture for her support, not for hurtful remarks.
Don't let her make you feel this waay, if she wasn't your MIL you probably would have decked her!
Good luck

Thanks to everyone for their replies and kind words. I don't think she was being cruel on purpose, but she grew up in a small town and hasn't really experienced a lot. I have always gotten along with her and I will try to put it behind me. Thanks again!