I agree. We dont need to be making people afraid to post their feelings, because they will be afraid of the way others will react. k73 has a good idea, if you know a post will bother you, avoid it. Maybe the moderators could come up with some sort of warning to be added to the topic so people can avoid the topics they will be upset by. I just want to be able to get the support I need, and I think everyone here probably feels the same way.

I understand what you both are saying and I have gotten a lot of support from both of you and would never hope to offend. It just boggles me how someone could be insensitive enough to come on here and talk about getting an abortion and expect support from me or any of us. I am usually a VERY understanding and supportive person, but I really just don't have it to give. I hope that both of you can understand that I am not trying to judge anyone or start anything, it just hurts.

i have to be supportive and caring to women who have had abortins at lest once aweek my cpc i work at has a abortion support group that i have to sit in on most nights. i hate being there but understand they have pain and that i am at a support group for them. i let them cry on my sholder and tell me how much of a mistake they made it take every ounce of strangth no to run from the room. they did something that i feel is wrong and yet i still love them and support them bu t when i am here to get support for the loss of my daughter i do not want to hear or support people who have done this for any reason. this is my time to get support for my daughters passing that i had no contorle over. they said to me we can take your daughter now she will be died in 24 hours any way i said no. i had to make that choice i was there in the mist of sorrow them trying to force me to abort my daughter telling me she had no chance any way so why not. i have walked in there shoes and if i was there again i would make the same choice. i love these women i feel for them but i can not give them what they are looking for here.i am so sorry if this hurts any one but i cant i come here for support. i really need it i am still so tore up. i even think about quiting the cpc so i do not have to work with people who had abortions or pregnant women but i cant because i love helping young mothers its my calling. i jut wish they had a commuinty to go to where they could take openly about this.

i have to be supportive and caring to women who have had abortins at lest once aweek my cpc i work at has a abortion support group that i have to sit in on most nights. i hate being there but understand they have pain and that i am at a support group for them. i let them cry on my sholder and tell me how much of a mistake they made it take every ounce of strangth no to run from the room. they did something that i feel is wrong and yet i still love them and support them bu t when i am here to get support for the loss of my daughter i do not want to hear or support people who have done this for any reason. this is my time to get support for my daughters passing that i had no contorle over. they said to me we can take your daughter now she will be died in 24 hours any way i said no. i had to make that choice i was there in the mist of sorrow them trying to force me to abort my daughter telling me she had no chance any way so why not. i have walked in there shoes and if i was there again i would make the same choice. i love these women i feel for them but i can not give them what they are looking for here.i am so sorry if this hurts any one but i cant i come here for support. i really need it i am still so tore up. i even think about quiting the cpc so i do not have to work with people who had abortions or pregnant women but i cant because i love helping young mothers its my calling. i jut wish they had a commuinty to go to where they could take openly about this.

i have to be supportive and caring to women who have had abortins at lest once aweek my cpc i work at has a abortion support group that i have to sit in on most nights. i hate being there but understand they have pain and that i am at a support group for them. i let them cry on my sholder and tell me how much of a mistake they made it take every ounce of strangth no to run from the room. they did something that i feel is wrong and yet i still love them and support them bu t when i am here to get support for the loss of my daughter i do not want to hear or support people who have done this for any reason. this is my time to get support for my daughters passing that i had no contorle over. they said to me we can take your daughter now she will be died in 24 hours any way i said no. i had to make that choice i was there in the mist of sorrow them trying to force me to abort my daughter telling me she had no chance any way so why not. i have walked in there shoes and if i was there again i would make the same choice. i love these women i feel for them but i can not give them what they are looking for here.i am so sorry if this hurts any one but i cant i come here for support. i really need it i am still so tore up. i even think about quiting the cpc so i do not have to work with people who had abortions or pregnant women but i cant because i love helping young mothers its my calling. i jut wish they had a commuinty to go to where they could take openly about this.

opps some how i posted 3 times sorry!

Really nicely put, K73. Thank you for your help in all of this. Peace.

Yes, very well put. I have so much compassion for women who are going through a trauma, no matter what it is. However, I agree that a separate community would be beneficial for all as far as these topics are concerned. That way we ALL get the support we deserve.

Thank you for being honest and not lashing out. This place is a haven for me and I would hate it if it became a place of finger pointing. No matter what, I still need to be able to mourn the loss of my Baby Love. And let's not let someone's ignorance ruin our safe place. I don't believe there was any malice intended that is why I am saying ignorance.
We are all here for the children that we lost and this is not a forum of hate but a refuge. And only we can keep it safe.
I know my head will come unscrewed every so often.
Love to all!

Hi k73,

I did the same, only I just contacted VLT rather than Doug ( I forgot about him). I agfree everyone needs support for their particular issues, but some issues are not appropriate for the miscarriage and stillbirth group.

Margi

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