Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
Feeling empty. That's really the only way I can describe how I feel right now. I spent the past 7 weeks being so excited and now I just feel nothing. I of course cried right after I miscarried and all through the day while I was passing the sac and tissue. My doctor kept telling me that it was good that I miscarried naturally and didn't need a D&C, but having to have contractions and basically go through labor was just so horrible. You only want to go through that if a baby is actually going to come and out and go home with you. I'm trying to stay positive and hopeful that maybe the next pregnancy will be ok, but it's so hard. I just keep fearing that they will all end this way and don't know if I'll ever really feel strong enough to try again. I'd love to hear from others who are feeling this same way and hear any advice you have.
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I'm sorry your hurting right now. It does eventually get a little easier every day to move foward. Nov. 13 will be my 3 month mark. That was my first pregnancy after over 8 yrs TTC! I felt REALLY horrible and wondered why I'd finally be blessed with a baby just to have them taken away from me. Hang in there, cry all you want, and just remember that it's OK to feel a little crazy now and then. ((HUGS))
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I had to be induced and go through 24 hours of labor (it wasn't bad, I had plenty of pain drugs) to deliver my baby at 19 weeks, (though the baby had died between 14 and 18 weeks, but at 14 weeks everything was fine). I felt the same way you felt at that time. But I was told by the Dr. that women that have m/cs have a 78% chance of having a successful pregnancy the next time, provided the mom is healthy and any conditions she may have are under control. I know it's rough, I keep thinking about the delivery. But I'm glad I did it naturally, instead of a D&C where I'd be under for the whole thing. Plus my Dr. said that being induced and having a vaginal delivery was better for my body, because there's some uterine scarring with the D&C. I was referred to a maternal fetal medicine Dr. for my next pregnancy, and I am going for a preconception visit in late Nov. I was told by all of my Dr.s on my case to take time when thinking about ttc again. When you're ready to ttc you'll know. I just take it a moment at a time, and allow myself to feel what I feel when I feel it. That's the only way to get through it and to grieve the loss of your baby in a way that you're not holding it all in. See if you can have preconception visit with a Dr. for women with high risk pregnancies (maternal fetal medicine) to get you tested to make sure you're all good (I'm going to do it to make sure I'm all good and if I need to be treated for something I will do it for my baby) and to give you the reassurance you need to go through the next pregnancy. These kinds of Dr's will monitor you more closely than a regular OB. Hope this helps you and sorry for your loss.
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