Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
Hi there. I'm new here, and wanted to share my miscarriage story. It's spread out over months, and has been devastating and frankly baffling for us.
We found out we were expecting back in mid-July, which was excellent news. It would have been #2 for us, a little sibling for our wonderful preschooler.
Then, at the end of July, I started bleeding heavily. We were crushed. I went into the doctor's the next day and they said it was a miscarriage that ended early - 7 weeks along, with an empty sac. I opted for no D&C, wanting to finish it naturally. And I thought I did, bleeding heavily for 2 weeks.
We waited a bit, tried again after my next period, and I got a positive pregnancy test in early October. Everything seemed fine, so we were devastated when the u/s showed no heartbeat in late October.
A second miscarriage. Which is even worse news, as everyone knows.
But something was odd - the baby measured over 9 1/2 weeks, but I'd only been pregnant for 7. No one seemed concerned by this, but I kept asking questions. And after talking with one of the more supportive doctors at the office I go to, we realized - it was the SAME BABY. The first miscarriage diagnosis had been wrong. Despite the fact that I'd bled a LOT, the baby kept growing. It died somewhere along the way, who knows when. But meanwhile, months have passed.
I guess it's technically "good" news that it's only one and not two miscarriages. But it's still awful. I had no idea something like this could happen, and could go on for so long. I didn't even know this was possible. And I'm 36 now, so time is 100% on my side, either.
I ended up getting a D&C last week, so it's now officially "over". It's been so hard to deal with. I don't know how to tell anyone about this. And, except for my AMAZING husband, I've gotten virtually no support the entire time. People really have no idea what to say or do in these situations, it's pretty clear.
I feel isolated, alone, angry, and very sad. I want answers, but I'm afraid I'll just get more of the same from the doctors - no, they have no idea why things didn't go right, they just didn't. Empty, unsatisfying vague statements.
Thanks for giving me a chance to share.
We found out we were expecting back in mid-July, which was excellent news. It would have been #2 for us, a little sibling for our wonderful preschooler.
Then, at the end of July, I started bleeding heavily. We were crushed. I went into the doctor's the next day and they said it was a miscarriage that ended early - 7 weeks along, with an empty sac. I opted for no D&C, wanting to finish it naturally. And I thought I did, bleeding heavily for 2 weeks.
We waited a bit, tried again after my next period, and I got a positive pregnancy test in early October. Everything seemed fine, so we were devastated when the u/s showed no heartbeat in late October.
A second miscarriage. Which is even worse news, as everyone knows.
But something was odd - the baby measured over 9 1/2 weeks, but I'd only been pregnant for 7. No one seemed concerned by this, but I kept asking questions. And after talking with one of the more supportive doctors at the office I go to, we realized - it was the SAME BABY. The first miscarriage diagnosis had been wrong. Despite the fact that I'd bled a LOT, the baby kept growing. It died somewhere along the way, who knows when. But meanwhile, months have passed.
I guess it's technically "good" news that it's only one and not two miscarriages. But it's still awful. I had no idea something like this could happen, and could go on for so long. I didn't even know this was possible. And I'm 36 now, so time is 100% on my side, either.
I ended up getting a D&C last week, so it's now officially "over". It's been so hard to deal with. I don't know how to tell anyone about this. And, except for my AMAZING husband, I've gotten virtually no support the entire time. People really have no idea what to say or do in these situations, it's pretty clear.
I feel isolated, alone, angry, and very sad. I want answers, but I'm afraid I'll just get more of the same from the doctors - no, they have no idea why things didn't go right, they just didn't. Empty, unsatisfying vague statements.
Thanks for giving me a chance to share.
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
im sorry your not gettng answers i know why i had mine but that dont help you any.
if you need to talk im here i dont know if i will say right or wrong things but will listen.