
Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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I had a partial molar pregnancy in May of last year. We got pregnanat again shortly after miscarriage and there was no baby that formed though the doctors did say the tissue they found seemed to be normal! It has been a year since the second miscarrige. I called my doctor and my doctor told me i am cleared to try again. My mother in law is convinced that i need a bloodtest and if I dont get a blood test again i will just miscarry again. Actually her exact words were "don't come crying to me when you lose another baby" I am nervous beyond belief because she said this. I know there is no bloodtest out there that is going to tell me if i will have another miscarriage, if there was we wouldn't be here! I've done lots of research on partial molar pregnancy's and they can test your hcg from anywhere of 6 months to a year. My doctor followed my levels down to zero and i have had a normal period for the last year. I have not seen anything anywhere saying after a miscarriage you need a bloodtest before you can try again! I know partial molar pregnancies are a little more serious, but i still haven't seen anything. My MIL is driving me crazy and i dont want to worry my way through another pregnancy because of her. I guess i just need advice / encouragement, I may already be pregnant and if not we are looking to be soon!
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I wish I had a snappy comeback for you to throw at her, but I'm not that witty.
I don't know if this helps, but when she makes comments like that "consider the source". She is being the sterotypical MIL. I hope you have other family to support you through this as well!
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Best Wishes.
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. :(
I wouldn't even bother with that MIL of yours right now. She obviously isn't giving you any support here and is enjoying throwing the past back in your face. I probably wouldn't tell her every single thing that is going on. Whatever you and your man wanna do should be just between you and him right now. This is YOUR thing. You don't gotta tell her anything! Unless you have reason to tell her or anyone else anything, ie. your preg, you guys should just do what you gotta do and keep it to yourselves. You don't need to continuously hear her negativity about this. It's not good for you to hear all of that anyways! You need positive support right now and that's it!
I'm here for ya!
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I'm sorry. She sounds like a very difficult woman and I though you could use a little humor. I think I would avoid her like the plague between the time of the positive home test and a happy ultrasound. Just for your own sanity. You will be going crazy enough with worry without her adding to it.
Best of luck to you. Know that all of us are backing you. You have the strength of hundreds to face this.
Sorry this is happening to you, as others have said you can't predict this either way.
If that can make you feel better my MIL is hell on earth.I didn't even tell her I was preg (and this was my 3rd pregnancy)so when I lost the baby at least I didn't have her on my back. Trust me, if she had known, she would have gone straight to my husband and told him that
next time he should marry an 'normal' woman (she can't wait for us to get a divorce and already told my husband that when we divorce he should let her choose his next partner because she knows better!). She has driven absolutely all her in-laws crazy over the years. In fact only two of her children out of five speak to her. When I had my second daughter she told my sister in law I had 'failed' to give my husband a son and he should never have married me... I always forgive her because I think she's nuts. But my husband hasn't spoken to her for 4 years...That was after she told him we diserved to have 'handicapped' children and that would teach us to be so ungrateful to her...Well, I was pregnant at the time and it really freaked me out...Anyway you get the picture...Don't listen to any of your MIL's nonesense. I have learned to ignore her completely. Unfortunately, some of them seem to think they know it all. But you know your body better than anyone else.. If I were you, I wouldn't bother telling her I am preg next time. I would just keep it to myself and my partner and when you know everything is OK then you could tell her. You wouldn't give her any opportunities to moan then. She'll probably feel amazed you 'managed' to have a baby without her expert advice!! Good luck and lots of love...Lola
Yeah there are some test that can tell you why youre miscarrying... I know why I am now and in a way I kind of wish I never had them do the testing. I feel even more broken and hopeless than I did before and now that I know the results I can never change it in my mind... know what I mean.
I recommend that you follow youre heart and pray to God that he does his will with your life and pray for peace of mind.
I believe that God can do anything and that every birth is a complete miricle. Just ask God to do his will and to keep you strong. You dont have to do it alone.