Oh hun, that was extremely insensitive of your MIL, not to mention confusing. I have never heard of any blood test that predicts a m/c.

I wish I had a snappy comeback for you to throw at her, but I'm not that witty.

I don't know if this helps, but when she makes comments like that "consider the source". She is being the sterotypical MIL. I hope you have other family to support you through this as well!
(((hugs)))
Best Wishes.

Wow.. no words come to mind for that MIL of yours. Well.. no nice words.
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. :(
I wouldn't even bother with that MIL of yours right now. She obviously isn't giving you any support here and is enjoying throwing the past back in your face. I probably wouldn't tell her every single thing that is going on. Whatever you and your man wanna do should be just between you and him right now. This is YOUR thing. You don't gotta tell her anything! Unless you have reason to tell her or anyone else anything, ie. your preg, you guys should just do what you gotta do and keep it to yourselves. You don't need to continuously hear her negativity about this. It's not good for you to hear all of that anyways! You need positive support right now and that's it!
I'm here for ya!
xoxox

I would avoid that woman for a while if I were you .you are doing everything you can and she is wrong...I hope this time it all go's well for you and this time next year you have a beautiful baby to prove the old B wrong...

There is really nothing you can do to prevent or predict whether or not you will have a future loss. I would definately not tell her when you are pregnant again until you are comfortable in doing so. You will probably be worried enough without her making it worse for you. I'll be trying again when my levels go down and I'm scared because I've already had two losses. However, having a beautiful child is worth it.

Unless your MIL has some medical training try this.... next time she brings it up sweetly ask to see her medical degree. Then politely inform her that you are going to trust your doctor since he has cleared you. ;-) (I've had to do something like this with my mother before when she wanted me to be on antibiotics for a virus... never anything so hurtful) Oh and be prepared for backlash.

I'm sorry. She sounds like a very difficult woman and I though you could use a little humor. I think I would avoid her like the plague between the time of the positive home test and a happy ultrasound. Just for your own sanity. You will be going crazy enough with worry without her adding to it.

Best of luck to you. Know that all of us are backing you. You have the strength of hundreds to face this.

hThomas98 I was thinking a similar thing to you. Next time she tells you congratulate her on becoming a qualified obstatrician (sp?), when she says she isn't tell her you'd rather trust those who are qualified.
Sorry this is happening to you, as others have said you can't predict this either way.

Hi Hun,
If that can make you feel better my MIL is hell on earth.I didn't even tell her I was preg (and this was my 3rd pregnancy)so when I lost the baby at least I didn't have her on my back. Trust me, if she had known, she would have gone straight to my husband and told him that
next time he should marry an 'normal' woman (she can't wait for us to get a divorce and already told my husband that when we divorce he should let her choose his next partner because she knows better!). She has driven absolutely all her in-laws crazy over the years. In fact only two of her children out of five speak to her. When I had my second daughter she told my sister in law I had 'failed' to give my husband a son and he should never have married me... I always forgive her because I think she's nuts. But my husband hasn't spoken to her for 4 years...That was after she told him we diserved to have 'handicapped' children and that would teach us to be so ungrateful to her...Well, I was pregnant at the time and it really freaked me out...Anyway you get the picture...Don't listen to any of your MIL's nonesense. I have learned to ignore her completely. Unfortunately, some of them seem to think they know it all. But you know your body better than anyone else.. If I were you, I wouldn't bother telling her I am preg next time. I would just keep it to myself and my partner and when you know everything is OK then you could tell her. You wouldn't give her any opportunities to moan then. She'll probably feel amazed you 'managed' to have a baby without her expert advice!! Good luck and lots of love...Lola

I would say try not to discuss this topic with her again. Honestly its none of her business and if she isnt going to support you then you have not need to talk to her about it thats what were here for.

Yeah there are some test that can tell you why youre miscarrying... I know why I am now and in a way I kind of wish I never had them do the testing. I feel even more broken and hopeless than I did before and now that I know the results I can never change it in my mind... know what I mean.

I recommend that you follow youre heart and pray to God that he does his will with your life and pray for peace of mind.

I believe that God can do anything and that every birth is a complete miricle. Just ask God to do his will and to keep you strong. You dont have to do it alone.

OMG SHE NEEDS TO KEEP HER OWN OPION TO HER SELF. WHAT IS SHE THINKING TO SAME SOMETHING SO CUREL. I BET SHE NEVER WENT THROUGH WHAT WE HAVE. SEE WOMEN AND MEN DONT REALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT WE WENT THROUGH UNLESS THEY HAVE EXPERIENCED IT. I SAY NEVER MIND HER. IF THE DOCTORS SAYS UR READY AND U FEEL READY GO FOR IT. WHO IS SHE TO TELL U WHAT TO DO. I WISH U THE BEST OF LUCK!