
Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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I guess I just need someone who can relate to me and my situation. I lost my twins last Thursday 13th. I had a c-section after going into preterm labor. I was only 22 weeks so the boys were under a pound each. They had no chance of survival. I am home now, and cant stop crying. My doctor suggested antidepressants, but thats not what I want. On top of all the physical pain, the mental pain is consuming me. I dont know what to do with myself. So if anyone has some advice I am all ears!!!
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Anyway, I didn't have anyone to talk to about how sad I was about my baby. Everyone kept saying "you're so strong and brave", so I felt like I couldn't let my true feelings out. So, my best advice to you is to not be scared to talk your heart out. Cry, scream, punch the wall if you have to....but just let it out. If you pretend like you're ok, and get distracted from your immense hurt, it will only get worse.
I know it seems like no one could ever in a million years understand what you are feeling, and you know what? Unless they've been through it themselves, they will never know. So, find people who have had similar experiences and share your story. Nothing you are feeling is weird or wrong in any way. I'm not in your shoes, but I feel like if I had gone on antidepressants when I miscarried, it would've just made me numb. If you feel like you don't want them, then don't take them. There is a huge difference between being depressed and feeling the deepest hurt you will ever feel, the loss of a child. Maybe down the road, if you feel nothing is getting better, then try them, but I really suggest you just feel the pain until you decide you've felt enough.
It will get better though. I promise. You will never forget your precious boys, and you will think about them everyday for the rest of your life. But that just shows how much you loved them. I lost my baby in September and I think about him constantly. It still hurts....so bad.....I can't imagine that there will ever be a day when I forget, but I've come to realize that he just wasn't meant for me, but the time we did share together was the most fulfilling, best time in my life. Your boys know how much you love them. I promise. So cry for them, anytime you feel like it. Let it hurt. I know that sounds like something awful, but if you don't walk right through the pain, you'll never get to the other side. Love is all around you.