Miscarriage Support Group

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multiple miscarriage

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and still 2 years later looking for an answer. everyone of them have been early, not making it past 6 weeks. I am right now suffering another. they think the underlying cause is Lupus but none of my doctors know for sure. my heart is so sore right now and i just dont know what to do. we want a child together so badly, thats why we keep trying. we have so much love to offer. we are honest and good people so its even harder to understand why this has to keep happening to us.i guess I am reaching out for friends here, someone who can honestly say i know what its like to loose so much with no definite answers as to why. i am so sad.
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I just realized this should have been in the advice section. my apologies, is there a way to move it?
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Deester...I just want to say I am so sorry. I know how it is and that it is difficult. Time helps some...but I still think of the ones who are gone.

If I may suggest...have you thought of a little ritual that might help you with the pain? Planting a tree or flowers, or something like that?
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I have thought of that but since its Feb. will have to wait. until then we are just lighting candles, 11 of them , every night.
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If it is lupus don't worry. Message me and I will tell you why.
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I understand totally. I have had 4 early miscarriages, 10 weeks being the longest I carried, 5 weeks being the shortest. Only with the first and the last was there ever a heartbeat. People do not understand that this kind of loss is as devastating if not more so than other miscarriages. They think because we never held our babies or saw them that the loss is not valid.
My doctor thinks that the placenta's just don't stay attached to my uterine wall, but have no clue as to why or how to solve it.
Early miscarriage is the hardest to figure out. We blame ourselves, and there is nothing we can do to change how it turns out.
I'm so terribly sorry for your losses. I am here if you would like to talk.

Many gentle hugs!
Candy
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I am so sorry to hear about all of your angels sweetie! It is so frustrating not knowing why such tragic things happen so such good people like yourself. That's a question I lay awake asking myself every night. So many people out there throw their babies away or abort them, for whatever reason. So many people have kids that don't want them. Why can't they be the ones to loose and not us who want babies so badly and have loved our own so much before they even arrived? I don't think for the life of me I will ever understand. It's completely unfair.

I think lighting candles is a great idea. I might steal that one from you, if you don't mind. I've only had one- lost my baby somewhere between 7-8 weeks. Never have I experienced such emotional pain in my life.

I'm keeping you in my prayers hun. I'm so sad for all of your losses and if you ever need a friend to talk to or someone to vent to and just listen, I'm here. Take care.
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