Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
My story
On October 13th, I found out that I was pregnant. My boyfriend and I were excited at first... then he started to have doubts and got very frightened of having a baby and so I made the decision to have an abortion (not that I wanted one at all... but I didn't want to force a baby on him). My appointment was to be November 3rd.
Then the week begining on 10/29, I began very light spotting. I kept quiet about it until Thursday 11/1 when I had an outburst of blood like a normal period with cramping.
I had my boyfriend take me to the hospital where I had a few tests done along with an ultrasound. The doctors told me that the baby was fine, but I had a "subchorionic bleed"--which made me a threatened miscarriage. They discharged me and that night, my boyfriend finally came around and said that he wanted the baby just as much as I always did. So we decided not to go through with the abortion.
Well, my bleeding persisted and about 48hrs after leaving the hospital I found myself back again. More tests were done, along with another ultrasound.
This time... no heartbeat. I had a miscarriage and was discharged from the hospital to let it pass naturally.
A few hours later, I passed the baby out of my body. They say most women don't even realize it... but I felt it. So I looked into the toilet and saw what appeared to be a huge blood clot. I needed to know for sure for my own benefit so I inspected it and there in my fingers was my 7 week old baby..
I don't think there is a worse pain in the world than holding your baby that is no longer alive...
Has anyone else had to go through this? Having to actually see and/or touch your miscarried baby?
It's like there are no "right" words to describe how I am feeling about this. I'm completely messed up inside..
On October 13th, I found out that I was pregnant. My boyfriend and I were excited at first... then he started to have doubts and got very frightened of having a baby and so I made the decision to have an abortion (not that I wanted one at all... but I didn't want to force a baby on him). My appointment was to be November 3rd.
Then the week begining on 10/29, I began very light spotting. I kept quiet about it until Thursday 11/1 when I had an outburst of blood like a normal period with cramping.
I had my boyfriend take me to the hospital where I had a few tests done along with an ultrasound. The doctors told me that the baby was fine, but I had a "subchorionic bleed"--which made me a threatened miscarriage. They discharged me and that night, my boyfriend finally came around and said that he wanted the baby just as much as I always did. So we decided not to go through with the abortion.
Well, my bleeding persisted and about 48hrs after leaving the hospital I found myself back again. More tests were done, along with another ultrasound.
This time... no heartbeat. I had a miscarriage and was discharged from the hospital to let it pass naturally.
A few hours later, I passed the baby out of my body. They say most women don't even realize it... but I felt it. So I looked into the toilet and saw what appeared to be a huge blood clot. I needed to know for sure for my own benefit so I inspected it and there in my fingers was my 7 week old baby..
I don't think there is a worse pain in the world than holding your baby that is no longer alive...
Has anyone else had to go through this? Having to actually see and/or touch your miscarried baby?
It's like there are no "right" words to describe how I am feeling about this. I'm completely messed up inside..
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I knew I had miscarried 2 weeks before I was scheduled to be induced. I had my son. When he came out I didn't look at him. The nurse took him and put him on a blanket and then covered his little body and face.
My OB said I should at least see my son. I expressed that I was scared because I wasn't sure how he would look because he had passed away two weeks ago. But I decided to go ahead and see him. The nurse bought him into me and I held it. I am so glad I did. Granted you could tell he had been dead for a few weeks but all his little parts were here and it was a relief to see him. I was expecting the worse.
I think it's different for people. I didn't take pictures of him but I held him. A friend of mine didn't hold her daughter but took pictures of her. It's never easy though to see your baby. I have my son's face just etched in my mind and I'll never forget it. I wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy. I am hoping in time it gets easier to deal with.
So thank you.
I don't ever want to go through this again. I don't know how women get through the pain of multiple m/c's. :(