I don't want to sound like a freak, but I was reading a book called "Eat Pray Love" and the women spoke of helping problems through rituals to let go of things that are hurting you. My miscarriage was back in August and still brings me a LOT of pain and I needed to find a way to let go. Its hard to let go of something that most people don't even acknowledge was even there or doesn't exist anymore. Even finding the slightest support has been difficult. I know that my baby is with god now, but still that only brings me a slight comfort as I wonder about it everyday. And how do you let go of something that you've never even held in your hands? So when I realized all else had failed me, I decided to try a "ritual". Rituals can be done however you like and they're commonly used in most eastern cultures (usually involving incense or candles etc). I wrote a letter explaining that I loved my baby and wanted to be free from the pain and guilt of losing it but wanted to also keep the baby with me forever, that I needed to be here for my daughter on earth, but want to be reunited with my lost baby when the time is right. I decided to read it aloud (which of course had me crying my eyes out) and then I burned it in my candle with the word mother on it along with a flower & I wrapped the baby's only bib around the candle. I felt that time would tell if it worked, but not much time had to pass. I ended up back together with her father last night. Which wouldn't be strange except for the fact that we broke up during the whole incident and have tried to talk, but haven't been able to due to pent up anger over our stand points on what has happened. (After the ceremony I started referring to the baby as "she" and I don't truly know the sex of the baby, but I'm pretty sure it was a girl) I think our daughter brought us together last night and I felt a lot of closure after the initial pain of the "ceremony". I just wanted to share this because maybe there is someone else out there who wants a way to physically, emotionally, or spiritually release the hurt that's been plaguing them and have some process of physical closure other than a medical procedure. This did work wonders for me hopefully it can help at least one other person too.
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