For me after my losses I felt like sex was just something I did to get pregnant, I did not feel sexy or connected at all. My husband felt the same way, even commented that he felt more like a machine than a man. I know it is not the exact same but hopefully it will help knowing that others have weird reactions after a loss. I am sorry by the way for your loss. I am surprised that at 25 weeks you had a D&C and did not deliver, do you know why they did it that way?

What sex drive? Compared to before, it's like I don't have one.

Anyway, I'm so sorry you were so traumatized by your medical treatment. I was fortunate to be unconscious for my D&C and I'm a little shocked you weren't. I have no memory of the procedure whatsoever. My medical staff was very compassionate and I felt they were taking care of me the very best way they could.

Since this does seem to be interfering with your life, have you considered talking to a counselor or therapist? I've been seeing a psychologist for therapy ever since 2 weeks after my miscarriage. She has really helped me come to terms with the aftermath.

I will be thinking of you.

I never had a D&C, I was able to go through a full labor and give birth to my daughter. But I had no sex drive for months. I hated being touched in any way. I think that because I was poked at by doctors for about two months before any one knew what was wrong with me. I think it was about six months before I had a bit of a sex drive at all. And still some times the haunting memories come back and I feel like I am at step one again. As time gose on I get that way less and less, one day I hope it will be gone forever. But not the memory of my daughter ;)

I wasn't awake for the D&C, but there were a lot of different people poking around down there while I was awake. I had to have one because even though the fetal heartbeat was stopped for 7 days, my body showed no signs of labor and my doctors were worried that my own health my be jeopordized if they waited for my body to get the memo.

You may have already thought of this, but have you tried another not-so-D&C-like position? (for example, both lying on your sides, facing one another) I didn't feel quite so traumatized by the D&C (I think they gave me some good drugs, though I was conscious), but I'm completely sick of putting my feet in stirrups for exams with nothing but bad news.

What sex drive? I have totally lost it. I have no desire to ever do it again. Sad isn't it? I had my son but had a D&C to get the placenta out. To be honest, I don't even remember the D&C. I think what they gave me was something "Twilight." I remember hearing my OBGYN say I am so sorry if I am hurting you and then I was out again. After just giving birth to my son, my OB that I had gone through enough so he kinda knocked me out (but wasn't asleep, I jsut don't remember it.)

Sorry if I wasn't any help, but I am truly sorry for your loss and what you are going through right now.

i didnt have a d&c with my m/c either...but i havent really had a sex drive since i lost my son...i didnt wanna be touched either...but i am pregnant again because me and my boyfriend wanted to try again...so we had sex after my first normal cycle, and continued for a couple weeks just to make sure we were PG...then after we found out, it was like that was it...we havent had sex in almost 4 months now...i feel bad for him, but he said he understands because he doesnt wanna take any chances on loosing this one too...(we had a bacteria that caused our m/c, so the doctor said to refrain from sex for a while...although i had meds for that and its gone...we are just trying to stay on the safe side)...but i hope everything goes well for you..and im sorry for your loss