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Thanksgiving Day is approaching and we have plans to have dinner with my Inlaws. Now, I have made a few posts that my MIL has said some really hurtful things to me about my M/C and not counting my son as a "real" grandchild. Anyway, my husband makes excuses for her (always has and always will.) I really don't want to be around this woman for the sake of my sanity. Should I just choke it up and just go or stand my ground and continue to refuse to go? I have other children and I don't want to ruin their Holiday. Any advice would be well appreciated.
Zayannee
i just say grin and bare it, for the kids sake. Stop by and say you have other stops to make and that you cant stay long. We have to deal with unthoughtful people but we dont have to sink to there level! Good luck!
deleted_user
Sorry your MIL is not being supportive of you in your time of need. Unfortunately the son usually sticks up for his Mom. My ex used to do the same thing. Anyway I'm always one for being the better person. She is your kids grandma and your hubby's mom so if you can maybe just go by for a little while and try to keep conversation light. If she goes off in the MC direction tell her that you don't want to ruin the holiday and you'd rather not discuss it with her. Good Luck, Angelique
deleted_user
Hmmm.. That is a tough one... If it were me I would probably go but avoid her as much as humanly possible. I don't know if that is great advice though. Ideally, over time we should forgive insensitive people I guess?
deleted_user
I think you should go for your kids sake but I think if anything come up, you take her into another room and tell her that you are not going to listen to any hurtful things, if she cant say anything supportive then just dont say anything at all. You dont have to take her crap just because your in her house but your kids wont understand not going to grandma's for the holidays. I might even tell her that this is the only reason your here and if it goes badly this year then you might be "out of the country" next year! :)
lindseylu
I would go ahead and go for your husband and kids. The first time she says something pull her to the side and let her have it, let her know you are not there because you want to be you are there because you are a nice person and you care about your family and she needs to start acting the same way. Then just go along and try to ignore her. Good luck!
deleted_user
I think you have to go because of your kids. If she makes another comment, you can politely tell her how you are feeling. My MIL makes thoughtless comments a lot about my miscarriages. I also try to avoid her. Good luck. I find holidays hard in general.
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