Thats what happened to me. Fight for it. Dont let it go. You will regret taking a back seat to your life

We've made sure to make time for each other. We've been on date nights, ran errands together, or just cozy on the couch. He's been my rock. We've booked a mini vacation over new years too. The biggest thing I can suggest is get him talking, most marraige problems we've ever had have been due to lack of communication.

this is so hard and i think one of the things that makes miscarriage so difficult. it takes time so my advice would be to not rush each other. talk about how you feel and explain to him that you need each other now more than ever. you don't have to be verbally communicating to know how you both feel so maybe if you are finding verbal communication difficult at the moment maybe just have a cuddle together. the most important thing to remenber is that as time goes on it will get easier. best wishes xx

We had some major arguments after my m/c in April and i thought at one piont there was no way forward for us but we kept talking- not about the m/c but things in the future to look forward to. It didnt make everything better over night but giving each other space when you need it and planning stuff really helped us and now we are much stronger for it. Good luck.xx

I know what you mean. I ran out of things to say to my husband and started talking more on here. He and I have struggled with our issues, but not so much about the miscarriage. Being on DS has allowed me to grieve in my own way, while he grieves in a quieter way.

My DH and I are married for 8 years now and Ive been there. From my own experience:
Keeping lines of communication open, having patience, and spending quality time with my husband had helped tremendously after my m/c. We go on mini trips/date nights, help a charity, and run errands together. When Im down I let him know that he doesnt need to try to fix things when all I need at the moment is a shoulder to cry on. Our men are under a lot of pressure and want to do whatever they can for us. I tell my husband that I appreciate everything hes done for me. I believe by saying that it has helped him open up to share his concerns for our future and me.

Im sorry for your loss and I hope what I shared will be of help. Hugs, Jocelyn

We went on a little weekend vacation to reconnect. :)

Love each other like you love yourself. I find that you can only talk about the loss so much before you start repeating yourself or just plain run out of words. My husband and I talk about other things aside from our loss, but if something comes up regarding the loss or we're feeling a certain way we talk about it. But our daily lives and conversations are not always centered on the loss. In the early stages of our loss we talked about it alot, but we moved the conversation to other things and we started doing things together (dates, etc.). But don't let your marriage fall by the wayside. A marriage is worth fighting for.

Dear Everyone, thanks heaps for your replies and suggestions, they have already helped.

what if we are getting married (rushed) because of the baby, but now the baby is gone, do i still have something to fight for?