I am really sorry that this has happened to you. It sounds awful. My first was in the casualty department of a hospital and the third I had a D&C but was also given the news in a really uncaring way. This is bereavement - news should be delivered with sympathy and understanding and yes, there is very little support when it is actually happening. I am thinking of you and I hope that next time all works out well for you xx

When i was in the hospital due to my mc they thought i might have a n ectopic pregnancy because they were never able to visualize the pregnancy they wanted me to just take pills to terminate. I told them i couldn't do that i unless i knew for sure. The doctor told me they care more about my health then a tiny little ball of cells.When i went to the doc to follow up i ?ed her recptionist as to why i had to pay another copay she said i wasn't pregnant until the drew the prenatal bloods. I wondered why I was there and the only reason was becaus i had a positive test so how could she tell me i wasn't pregnant. I know i' rambling but i guess people just see early pregnancy as a "group of Cells" and not a baby that's why there so insenstive.

What i really hated after the miscarraige to is when They said It just wasn't meant to be or GOD did it for a good reason. Is the reason so we could all suffer with greif.

I understand your loneliness. I didn't have insensitive doctors and I still feel lonely and alone because everyday people are reluctant to discuss the baby I lost so no one says anything.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know that this is such a lonely experience. People who haven't loss a baby just can't understand how heartbreaking it is.
I totally know what you mean. When you are pregnant, everyone wants to talk to you about the baby! But when you lose it, they may say I'm sorry at first; but then go on like you were never even pregnant in the first place! I hate that! They expect you to just act like it never happened! I lost my baby at 32 weeks, and a lot of people are treating me that way. It is a very lonely grieving process.
Hang in there. We are all here for you and know that this is so heartbreaking. Hugs!

I know what you mean.No one in my family understood.The first miscarriage I started spotting at eight weeks and went to the doctor.The DA doctor look at me and by myself your baby is died and you need to get reid of it.How can someone be so cold. I decided if my baby is died I was going to loss it on my own.Three months later I was pregnant again and loss the baby at eight weeks.Went to talk with the doctor on why this was happening to me and he said they really don't know unless I come up with $3,000 for some test.I went home determine I was going to get pregnant and found a doctor I really like.

I'm really sorry to ehar all that.
my 1st pregnancy i found out at our 11wk scan that our baby had stopped developing at 5 weeks. the sonographer was really uncaring and jsut said it wasnt a viable pregnancy and we'd get sent for in a few weeks for another scan to make sure it hadnt developed. there was no caring-ness and she was so blunt about it we didnt knwo what was happening. it was our first ever pregnancy and she didnt explain anything to us properly.

my 2nd pregnancy we had to really push for an early scan and everything seemed to be fine. we then had to push for another scan and we found out it had died 2 weeks earlier. she sonographer this time was lovely, she said she was sorry and let us have some time alone while she sorted out an appointment to see a doctor to discuss thinsg further.
i then went to the hospital for a D&C the morning after and the nurses were totally different. i was told not to eat that morning, so i ahdnt eaten since 9pm the night before. i was left alone in the bed all day, my mum foned the ward toa sk what wa shappening and why i wasnt been told anything and the nurse had a go at me asking why i had gotten my mum to have a go at her down the fone. i was then given a pessery behind the cervix (only as i had rememebred it from last time...they ahd forgotten to prescribe me it this time...which cud have caused damage to cervix during d&c) and then left for hours alone, in which time i started bleeding and the nurses didnt seem bothered.it was 10pm before i was taken for the D&C and the night staff were so much nicer than day ones.

sorry for rambling on, i just wanted to let you know that i fet so lonely and abandoned during our 2 MC, your not alone and i think that these sonographers, doctors, nurses, ect shud all think more about the pain that women are going thru during these difficult times, i dont think they realise how hard it is for us.

I know what you are going through. I went through everything, my pregnancy, miscarrage, and the after effects, all by myself. no one knew because i never told anyone. just to let you know you are not alone.