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I'm supposed to be pregnant!

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I'll be turning 30 in a couple of weeks. My mother in law was all about throwing me some sort of big party (don't ask me why, I have no emotions about turning 30 one way or the other) and then I had my first m/c. She was sympathetic and very good about the whole thing. A month or so later, she knew we were trying again, and had said 'so you will probably be pregnant on your birthday, so if I'm throwing you a party, I'll have to take that into consideration,' and I said 'yup, if all goes well.' And then I had m/c #2. So now we are ttc. We tried last month, and it didn't work out and I got my period. I took it really hard... still taking it really hard. I know we can try again... it's just that that memory is sticking in my head. There are so many moments of "I'm supposed to be pregnant". Are any of you seeing a therapist, and if so, how did you find a good one? I hardly even want to try anymore... I've started to doubt why I am trying.
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Kelley, I know it is hard, but don't give up! If it is something you really want, then keep trying. I am thinking about the therapist thing too, so I will check this one to see what people say. Good luck and I am here for you! Love,Jillian
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Hang in there, my best friend and my sister also lost both their first babies. They now each have two healthy children. All the best xxoo
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I am seeing one. She's helped me tremendously. She gives me insight into the loss of my baby that I wouldn't have had dealing with it on my own and I'd probably still be in this emotional rut if I had not started. I found my therapist by looking at my provider list from my Health insurance co. I got lucky and found a wonderful one on the first try. I was going to keep trying to find one that I liked if I didn't like the first one, but God blessed me with not having to do that, for she's a great therapist.
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I just started seeing a therapist last Wednesday. She was recommended by my group of OBGYN doctors. Even after my first session, I felt better. She let me talk, cry, and most of all she listened to me. I am actually excited about going back this week.
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I've been seeing a therapist every other week for the past 3 months (m/c was 3 1/2 months ago). She has been a tremendous help to me, particularly in gaining perspective over what I can and cannot control.

I found her online by searching for licensed mental health professionals in my area. I looked for someone with infertility and/or women's issues as a specialty. Another idea is to ask for referrals from your doctors, family, friends and/or religious organization.

Do check with your insurance to see who and what's covered. You don't need any more headaches right now, so be ready to follow their procedure.

Finally, find someone you with whom you feel comfortable. This may or may not happen with the first therapist you see.
Good luck!
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