Miscarriage Support Group

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Hi I'm a new member here and not sure where to start. I've had a hard time. For these last few years. Husband and I started trying for baby about 5 years ago...I was 27...and I've had 4 miscarriages. 1st @ 13 weeks, 2nd I guess about 6 or 7 weeks...I don't know...it was just long enough to get a + test and get excited and start telling people. :( 3rd and 4th happened within a day or 2 of receiving a + early home pg test.

We've given it a break for the last year and 1/2 and are now talking about trying again...thats what has my emotions going crazy. On one hand I'm alittle excited, on the other thinking why would I dare to think it could work out? What's so special about this time? Then we also have a family member who's pg and everyone expects me to get all excited...but sorry I can't. I can't do it. I feel somewhere between indifferent and irritated...I know I must be unnatural for that.

Thanxs for listening and any advice...sorry if I rambled a little.
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Being unsettled around pregos is natural. It is part of the process. I am sorry for your losses. I commend you on your determination but I know I will be worried the next time I get a + on a pt. I am 33 and childless and my 17 yearold sister had a baby the day before my m/c (at 9 weeks). I live 1500 miles away form my family. I cry when I hear little Emily when I talk to them. This hasn't happened to anyone in my family so they don't understand.
Glad you found us. The support here is incredible.
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its not un natural at all! i used to think the same thing all the time. everyone has feelings and emotions they cant control. i cant say from experience that it gets easier because everyday still feels the same to me, but alot of people tell me that in time you will heal but never forget. you need to give your self a chance to heal and hang in there. :-)
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What your feeling is definitly normal. Im actually going through the same things as you right now. I had my m\c about 9 months ago. I am ready to try again but Im a little apprehensive too. So I know what your feeling.
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