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I Hate my Family

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So if you all who know me and have read my other stories. and for those who dont. im cindy and im suffering from PCOS infertility and the loss of my baby girl , Hope. so last night my little sister and i were talking on the phone. i had just finished telling her i reallly do appricate her sticking up for me and then she justblurts out that im not suspose to be a mother that mom only needs one grand child and that I can look after all of her kids. like what the heck! i was so upset. then my mother gets on the phone and starts yelling at me so i just said what everyone else would do i said well thanks for listening to your daughter. good bye. i dont know how to deal with all this i wanna give up but something inside me just wont let me. ive showed them the tears and hope video and my little sister just said get over it. i flipped out and started yelling at her and i said how dare she sence she has no job living on wellfair. staying with my mom and she dont even know the father of her son. i just needed to get it out because she was telling me to grow up? ahhhh i hate my family. seems like my fiance is the only one i have left.
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Hope things get better with your family.I would hate them to in that situation.We are here for you are DS.
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oh girl I'm so sorry family can be so cruel they are your worst enemies sometimes I swear. Maybe you should take a break from them for awhile. I have family on my moms side that I don't even talk to those people are evil man. A grandma aunts uncles brothers it so sad but that's the way it is and if they make you miserable separate yourself from them. You will eventually feel better it hard at first but it is a relief.
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I am so sorry! Not only am I not speaking to my family but my inlaws either. The day after I came home from the hospital from having my son my own mother said "you just need to snap out!" My own mother thinks I am a complete nutcase.

Fortunately this website has helped me out TREMENDOUSLY!
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i am so sorry you have to go through this...i dont talk to my family either...sometimes family can hurt you so bad..and you would not think they could because they are the ones that are meant to love and be there for you for everything...i am so sorry...i am here if you need to talk
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Sometimes they just don't understand. My family is ok but there are still some of my in laws that don't even know about the miscarriage because I know they will say something STUPID and I will end up telling them that THEY are stupid! Take a break from them if nothing else.
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I hope things get better for you. That's really rotten of her to say that to you and you were right to tell her off. I know they're your family, but if you need to stay away from them to protect yourself emotionally and mentally, so be it. I've asked women who are insensitive this......Ok, so you say I should get over my child dying? I'm a mother just like you, as I carried life in my womb, and though my child's life was short, does it make my child's life any less valuable than your living child? If your child died tomorrow, and a few months or years later someone said he/she only lived x # of years you should be over it by now. How would you feel? That ususally gets 'em. Because they start to think. And they look at it as you carried life and though it was short was it not a life, and does it make that life any less than mine or my child's? Most people who are 1/2 way smart get it. Some people are dumb as a box of rocks and will never get it. Pray for your family. I'm here if you need me
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honey sometimes I think our families just don't know what to say and so they end up saying totally the wrong things. maybe your sis saying that your mum only needs one granchild was her clumsy way of trying to take the pressure off you thinking that you had to keep trying in order to please your family. and maybe your mum shouted because that was her reaction to all the hurt she fels at watching her baby go through so much pain. whichever way, its never easy for us or our families and I just wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts and I hope things get easier for you and your family.
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I'm fortunate to have an amazing family (incl. my in-laws), but I know from my own life experience that some people JUST SUCK. (How's that for mature eloquence?)

You would think that sensitivity and compassion would be encoded in our DNA, but, hey, given that not all humans are humane, perhaps that's too much to ask. :-)

I don't want to give your mother and sister anymore attention, nor do I want to fuel the negative. So I'll simply say this: given your strength, given your ability to survive adversity and pain, what an amazing mother and role model you will be. How lucky your child will be to have a mother of character who will never perpetuate the negativity she's endured.

(And, yes, I have faith and hope for your, Cindy. I'll believe for you. You WILL be a mother.)

Be strong. :-)
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I think the worst thing about a situation like this is you feel that everyone should offer nothing but sincere compassion because nothing else is appropriate, my husbands ex and mother of my step children doesnt know about my mc because my husband is terrified that she is going to say gcruel to upset me and its very hard to understand, I think kind and helpful comments are the only ones me and you should pay attention to despite how very hard it is. I wish you the strength and love you need.xxxxxxxxx
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