
Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

deleted_user
My mom and I were riding in the car together, going to the bank. We were talking about fabrics when she changed the subject to a baby blanket for my expecting sister. She said she thought it would be neat to get every one at our family reunion this year to make a square and then my mom would put it together and present it to my sister. I didnt say anything, then she said or we could just do it in our family (in our house). She said you could make one and help everyone else and blah blah blah, she doesnt know this, but that really bothered me, i started to well up with tears thinking, that would have been me... etc, She knows how I feel about my sisters pregnancy, she is the one I went to when i first found out my sister was pregnant. I told her how i was mad, and jealous and sad, but it just really hurt and angered... and upset me... I dont know, i guess im just being selfish. i really dont even want to have to get my sister a baby shower gift, i mean, she never got me a xmas gift or thank u card for what i gave her, she never thanked me for helping SO much w/ her wedding that she wasnt there to help w/, and i never even got a gift or spent "special" time w/ her when i was her maid of honor, and all of the other bridesmaids recieved something. im not bothered by not physically getting something, but c'mon, it hurts. And I know that being the maid of honor should have been enough, but then she didnt even spend anytime w/ me making any decisions like she did w/ the other bridesmaids... grrr...

deleted_user
I am so sorry sweetie. I understand. My SIL is pregnant and due 3 weeks before I was supposed to be. My MIL always tells me how big she is(they live 1000 miles away) and about the ultrasound blah blah blah. My husband thinks I shouldn't be worried about this, but I am really not looking forward to Christmas. We should have been huge together, but.... and since we have to travel so far it's not like I can just turn around and go home when I've had enough.

deleted_user
I know how you feel about two weeks ago I got a call from my little brother saying he got his EX-girlfriend pregnent and thats he's really happy and than today I got another call from him telling me that they had there first appt/ultra sound and the baby is doing fine and there due 5/23/08 one month after I was spose to be due.I loss my baby on 9/21/07 so this is all comming on so fast. So my family is all talking about this baby and what we should due and so on and its like they dont even see that im hurting. They act like my baby was nothing and its done and over with. So I know how you feel. If you wanna talk email me it kinda seems we are in the same boat.

deleted_user
My sister had her baby 7 weeks ago. she found out she was pregnant about 3 months after my first son died in hospital. i was so angry and upset that she could be doing this to me. i felt so selfish but at the time i didn't care. i thought she was just being selfish towards me. i didn't go and see her throughout her pregnancy. i couldn't face the fact she was having the one thing i wanted. i then fell pregnant 8 weeks before she was due. i managed to go and see her. i was still upset but tried to think about the little life i was growing. about a week after she had her daughter i started bleeding, everyone said it's quite normal i'd be fine. guess what, i wasn't. i ended up in hospital on a sunday afternoon after i started to heamorage in work. i held what would have been my baby in my hands as i bled. i was 11 weeks. i now can't even spend time with my niece coz i've gone back to being bitter and jelous. i just think it's normal in these situation. i'm hoping i'll get better with time though!!!! so will you!!!!

deleted_user
I have the same problem with my mother. Right after the m/c she had me go to the mall wth her and pick out baby clothes for my cousin who just had a baby. She wouldn't shut up about that damn baby for weeks! She knew I had a m/c and everything. When I went back to University she mailed me a ton of pics of the baby. To this day she nags me about not going to see him. But frankly, I don't care if I ever see this baby and I'm quite sick of STILL having to hear about him. You're not selfish for how you feel. It makes perfect since. I think that your mom probably just doesn't understand how you feel, especially if she hasn't been through it. Or perhaps she thinks that getting involved in your sister's baby shower will help you feel better in some way. I'm sorry for your loss and that you had to go through all of this. You can message me at anytime! Take care!
Join the Conversation
Posts You May Be Interested In
-
theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
-
I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...