
Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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I about screamed when I saw Brittany Spears is pregnant AGAIN. Everything is GOD'S will. I don't get it. People say trust, be patient. The point IS he CAN intervene, but he doesn't. I was so back on track with my faith and then I had my second miscarriage. I am sad and angry, but can only imagine you mother's of stillborn babies. Why can't he give you and I our precious ones?
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I've come to terms with the fact that I can't know why everything in the world happens (and that I won't agree with the way all things happen). I figure it's like the behind-the-scenes stuff many of us experience at work: we may be privy to information that makes the nonsense make sense, but that information is confidential, so we can only stand steadfast as others yell, "WHY???"
I'm new here, so perhaps many will think me naive. But my m/c is helping me to see that there is MUCH outside my control and understanding, no matter how much I fight to know or understand. So I can choose to channel my energy that way, or I can accept that there are things I can't know and control, and focus on preparing myself for the child I am meant to have. (One of my concerns is being negative--and conceiving a child in the midst of anger and hurt. Call me superstitious or crazy, but I want my child to have the best possible beginning and be cocooned in happiness and positivity.)
I am Christian, though not especially church-y. But I do believe that energy begets energy. And I'd rather send out good energy and cultivate good energy for me and my as-yet-to-be-conceived child.
Again, I may seem naive. I do hope I don't sound preach-y. I just hope that seeing things from another's perspective may help or comfort you a little.
Take care of yourself. :-)
Sometimes, I think the only thing to do is just to make that jump - the "what if there is no God?" (For the record, I think there is.) So what do you get? A bottomless pit of meaninglessness and despair. The life of your child -- your own life -- mean nothing. All the immaterial things we care so much about are pointless and largely imaginary.
Feels terribly unsatisfying doesn't it? You KNOW there's more to your life and your relationships than just a bunch of random chemical reactions.
So it always lands me back in God's camp. Is it sometimes rough and hard to understand why? Yes. But there is the promise that SOMEDAY we WILL know. A sustaining hope for a better place for ourselves and our loved ones. And good, positive work to do in the mean time. It's a bad, ugly world (and our personal pain is just the tip of it). But this is something we have to cling to in the darkness.
"If God brings us to it, He will bring us through it." I think that were all going through these problems because they will make us stronger woman and better people in general it may just take us awhile to realize that this things happen and that someday we can stand up and help others that are going through the same thing. :)
And, I know it's not helping anything. Prosperity is right. Energy begets energy. I want to conceive and have a healthy baby; so the anger is worse than useless. It's potentially harmful. The question is how to get to that point of acceptance? I know it's futile and probably even arrogant to be angry with God. But, it's really hard not to be.
I'm going to tell myself that I have to let go of the anger for the next child. That's the focus now, I guess.