
Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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My husband and I gave birth to an angel yesterday, James William was stillborn. It was our first child and my first pregnancy, and I am not sure how to deal with all these emotions I am having. If you have been through this please tell me what works and doesn't because I feel so empty, pain medicine doesn't help me sleep, and all I can do is cry.
Maggie
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God blessed us once with our two boys
Your names were Gray and Reed
We prepared for you with clothes and toys
But now our hearts they bleed
This pregnancy we never dreamed
Could bring us so much bliss
As we watched my belly grow
Its roundness your father would kiss
Then one night Reed couldnt wait
It seemed your time had come
A sudden birth was your fate
Your father and I were numb
It was hard to believe
Our one son was gone
I was told not to grieve
The other barely hanging on
A sacrifice for you brother
Though it doesnt seem fair
In the heart of your mother
You should be a pair
To keep Gray safe I laid so still
We prayed for mercy day and night
We fought so hard against Gods will
But in the end we lost the fight
Your tiny fragile fingers and toes
Delicate to my touch
What went wrong no one knows
The pain is just too much
I long to feel you move inside me
Sensations Ill never forget
I do feel fortunate to have held you
Something Ill never regret
I pray my father looks after you
For he is my guardian angel
Every night I ask him to
Ill eternally be grateful
We prayed to God for you three years
Our wish had finally come
But now our eyes are full of tears
For the loss of our two sons
God blessed us once with our two boys
Your names were Gray and Reed
We prepared for you with clothes and toys
But now our hearts they bleed
This pregnancy we never dreamed
Could bring us so much bliss
As we watched my belly grow
Its roundness your father would kiss
Then one night Reed couldnt wait
It seemed your time had come
A sudden birth was your fate
Your father and I were numb
It was hard to believe
Our one son was gone
I was told not to grieve
The other barely hanging on
A sacrifice for you brother
Though it doesnt seem fair
In the heart of your mother
You should be a pair
To keep Gray safe I laid so still
We prayed for mercy day and night
We fought so hard against Gods will
But in the end we lost the fight
Your tiny fragile fingers and toes
Delicate to my touch
What went wrong no one knows
The pain is just too much
I long to feel you move inside me
Sensations Ill never forget
I do feel fortunate to have held you
Something Ill never regret
I pray my father looks after you
For he is my guardian angel
Every night I ask him to
Ill eternally be grateful
We prayed to God for you three years
Our wish had finally come
But now our eyes are full of tears
For the loss of our two sons
I am in the same situation as you. I delivered my precious little girl stillborn in early April. My emotions are so mixed up and I am finding it hard to deal with. As to what helps I would say everyone may be different but I am taking sleeping tablets when I havent had a decent night sleep for a while. I am off and on with the tablets and try not to rely on them too much. I cry most of the time every day and I could be anywhere and just cry at the drop of a hat. My daughter was my first and may be the only one as I have age not on my side. I dont know what my future holds. All I think of is hope my precious daughter and all the beautiful angels are safe and having fun in heaven. I can't wait to see my little girl again, my life seems worthless without her. I send you a big hug because we all need them so much.
Something that I found helpful, and still do, is to talking to God. I was so freaking mad at Him at first so I would scream and cry when talking to Him. I told him exactly what was on my mind, because I know He can take it. So yell, scream if you want to. During this time when your heart is so broken and you dont see how you could ever possibly be happy again, it's ok to let it out. It takes time to grieve, and that's what you need to do. But I think mostly talking about your baby and your experience is helpful, at least it is for me. Writing poetry and journaling has been very healing and helpful too.
Then later if you have pictures of him, maybe you could put his baby book together. An idea that another angel mommy here did was make and send out birth announcements. Something like that to honor and remember your baby could be healing for you too. My prayers and thoughts are with all of you who recently had to experience this nightmare.