I am so sorry for your loss, but let me tell you, this is an excellent site full of very caring, sensitive women who are willing to help as much as possible. I had my miscarriage in October of 2008 and some days are still a challenge, but it does get better/easier. I found out I was pregnant on a Friday, and by the next Friday, I was confirming the loss.

Right now, the best thing for you to do is to take care of yourself, don't over do it, and try not to over think it. It was not your fault that your baby didn't make it. You are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

hi, im so sorry for your loss it is hard, very hard but in time you will feel better, i miscarried twice, once in 2004 and again in october 2008 @20 weeks, the thing that most helped me was crying... it sounds very simple doesnt it!, just cry... let it all out, scream and shout if you feel you have to, once you have done all that you will feel much better!, over the next few weeks you will have your good days and your bad days, and even the next few months, but be assured it will get better, this pain you are feeling, and the lump in your throat will get better. the vicor who did my daughters funeral said something to me which really helped me, she said "your baby was too good for this world, and was needed in heaven to be someones guardian angel, she is at peace." i am not a great believer in God or religion but that did help a little.
i hope you start to feel better soon take care of yourself and make time for yourself. x

I'm so sorry for you loss. I have been through 3 miscarriages and I got alot of support from everyone on D/S so your in a good place. I also cried alot! And I really had a mourning process after every m/c. Each time I stayed in bed for several days. For some reason it took me a while to be able to face the world again. I guess it would fall under the lines of depression. But that is what I needed for me. Take your time and let your self heal. And cry all you want. If you ever need to talk I'm here. You'll be in my prayers Monday.

Everyone reacts differently. Mostly I was so angry, yet crying at the same time. My best piece of advice is stay connected with your husband. Tell him how you're feeling, no matter how silly it sounds. His reassurance is crucial.

If you feel like crying, cry! Get it out. Don't try to stop it. I promise you will get to the point where you don't feel completely hopeless. It's a rough road but it will make you stronger than you ever thought you were.

If you're a faithful person, pray for strength. I couldn't have gotten through this without my faith!

I feel your pain, Amanda. I just found out I miscarried at 8 weeks (at week 12) , and had a d&c last friday. I am going through the same ups and downs emotionally, and it's awful. I read that journaling and talking about the experience and your feelings can help, so I've been writing down as much as I can about what happened, how I felt being pregnant, how it feels now... all the awful details. I also read what I've written aloud to my husband sometimes, and it can be painful to say the words, but I think it's good to get them out. It also helps me get a good cry when my instinct may be to close up and avoid dealing with the feelings.

Also, talking to people who've been through the same thing has been a tremendous help.

I'm sorry for your loss!!

I found out that I was going to miscarry Nov. 25, but didn't naturely pass everything and had to have an emergency D&C jan. 5. I was a nervous wreck about having to have D&C, but I surprisely felt good the next day. It is very scarey to have that...but there is HEALING afterwards.

As far as for grieving over your loss...IT TAKES TIME!!! I started out talking to my closet friends and also those who experienced a miscarriage. It is alomost march and I am still grieving!!! Grief Counseling is my lastest source of help.

The best thing my therapist told me was that my sadness and anger..whether at God or even at others who are pregnant or have kids...is completely NORMAL!! Don't put yourself down...everyone grieves differently!!