I don't have any children but I would say no. Maybe you could mention about your lost ones but I wouldn't count them as the ones you have in the present. Hope I helped.

I tell people that I have three children. My miscarriage was very early and I have not actually talked to many people about it. I have a friend who had a miscarriage at 20weeks. Most of the time I hear her tell people who ask her that she has three boys. But sometimes a group of us will all start talking about our kids and she will say that she has 3 boys with her and a angel boy watching her from heaven. I think that is beautiful.

I do. I have one child. Her name is Dot. I count her as one of my children, because she was alive. Only for a short time did I have her, but she will always be my child. So, I tell people that I have one little girl, who's in heaven.

I guess I would say I have a 16 year old daughter and a son who was stillborn.(sometimes) And other times(like if I did not really want to start a discussion) I would say 1. People tend to feel super sorry for you when you tell them that you had a stillborn----------------Besides having a stillborn I also had a m/c and I would not count that.

I've had one miscarriage - if I don't want any questions I say "nope, someday" but with someone I am getting to know, I might say "i almost did once" and explain.

You know I just don't know what to say. I've said 4 before and people who knew about my son would look at me like I have lost my mind and then I feel horrible if I say only 3. My doesn't count as a stillbirth but as you can tell in my picture he was completely formed (penis, fingers, toes and all.)

This is all coming up because I had a sweatshirt made up for my mom with all the grandkids names on it and I left off Mark's name since no one in my family or my husband's family counts him anyway.

i'd say no, especially if i wanted to avoid the conversation that would inevidably follow. (i've had 1 m/c and i don't have any other kids)

I feel comfortable saying I have two with me. Those are the ones people see anyways. But some will get that there's more and ask, then I get to say my youngest died just after birth. I feel like if the people don't ask, it's all for the best cuz those would have the ones to say something totally hurtful. I think it's something that will be right for you, practice it. Keep saying it until it's comfy and you are at peace with it. There are days when I really want to just say I have two living children. Even more distinction but many days I don't feel like dealing with all the questions/crap after saying something like that. In some ways, it's all symantics but still, you are right that to not include them makes us feel awful but yet saying something makes us feel awful too. I hope that you can be at peace with all this in time. And just a by the way, my inlaws really haven't acknowledged Laura since she was born...they never saw her and avoid any mention of her now. For Christmas, the grandmothers are getting bracelets with all their grandkids on it. My mom's will have 9 names although only 7 are living and my inlaws will have 3! She will continue to get gifts from all her grandkids!

I think it's whatever you're comfortable sharing. If you want to talk about your losses, go ahead and say "I have 2 children and 2 in heaven." Or something along those lines. If you don't care to talk about it, then don't mention your losses. The sweatshirt thing would be hard. I'm sure this is also something people who have lost older children struggle with as well.

I say this is my third. Technically my last baby was a m/c due to a cord accident, but I still count him. I know he was a boy, I even have pics of him. However, I don't think anybody else really counts him. My husband (after a big fight) is now counting him too.

I say I have 3 and number 4 on the way there is no way I would not count my sweet baby Esther she is my daughter, and she is waiting in heaven for me, she was still born at 36 weeks.

i always tell them i have 2 children but i lost one but you watch their faces when you tell them they dont know where to look or what to say its hard

I have thought about how I will handle this question. When I god willing get pregnant again it will be my third child. I plan on saying this is my third, my first 2 are in heaven. I don't care if it makes others uncomfortable. My boys are real and are always in my heart. I say tell others whatever you are comfortable saying. There is no right or wrong answer to this question. So what if others are uncomfortable?

Most of the time I say I have one little boy and he is in heaven. I work in a hospital so if I have patients ask me, I may say no. Sometimes it just hurts too much to go into it. I really think it depends on the situation. But if I get pregnant again, I will definetly say I have that this is my second pregnancy.

I've had quite a few people ask me lately when we plan on starting a family. I've simply stated that we're trying, but recently suffered a miscarraige. That usually works for me. I'm almost positive that most of the people who've asked had known we were expecting, and were trying to find out why I'm not growing a baby belly. I definately will say that this is my 2nd pregnancy when I do get preggers again. I'm not sure about how I'll count kids.